[scotty1234]

I think i have officially hit my rock bottom. I am 26 and trying to save for a mortgage deposit. I am annoyed at myself because i feel as though i should be earning a higher annual salary than i am, and i am trying to compensate for
that by gambling and hoping to win big and solve my problems. However, i dont even know what is a big win anymore. I was just 300 up,
and then bet big and lost. im devastated. its affecting my relationship, my savings and my social life. My question is, how can i avoid the temptations, when im constantly attached to my technology? ive restricted how much i can deposit
but i cancel it and then end up betting all of my weekly money. im upset, tired, lost and unsure as to what i can do. Any help is appreciated

[charles]

Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums

Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!

Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.

As well as the forums New Members are invited to join Charles in the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK)

And on that note….

I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂

Take care

The Gambling Therapy Team

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[charles]

Hi Scotty, well done on looking for help. You can stop gambling I promise you.
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nRead the other stories here, you will see the sorts of things that have helped others stop gambling.
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nSome of those things involve barriers – you can exclude from your usual sites, you can install blockers on your devices that will stop you signing up to others. If you download the App here it has details of various blockers and also other recovery tools.
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nThis is effecting your relationship? It sounds like your partner is aware of the problem then. They can help by setting any passwords needed on blockers. They can also help with the financial barriers and accountability that help.
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nKeep posting here and let us know the positive steps that you are taking. Try and connect to the groups as well. The most important thing is to use support – if we could do it on our own then none of us would be here.
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nKeep posting.

[scotty1234]

Thanks for your reply. Its not that my partner knows, but I am constantly lying to him about money and why I cant afford things that he expects me to be able to afford. I am excluding myself from all sites that I remember setting up, which is a task in itself. 

I am focusing on the positives. I am young, have a great partner and great family. If I can nip this now, I can spend less time worrying about finances and more time enjoying what I am earning and what I can spare. Thank you again for your response. Its strange to speak to someone about this, let alone someone I dont even know. However, I feel like this is a positive step in the right direction in itself. Thank you

[kathryn]

Welcome 

I really liked your last post, positive steps.  when I read your introductory post you sounded so stressed and it seemed you were putting way too much pressure on yourself.  You said it, you’re young and have a great partner and family!  Use them if you need to! Gambling is such a secretive addiction, speaking for myself I became a master liar, the more I did it the worse I got.  It is progressive Scotty, so taking these steps now is brilliant! It’s hard to reach out for help and you should be proud of yourself that you have.
My advice would be barriers, get them up, reatrict your access to money, gambling blockers for your phone and computers, tell someone close to you if you need (I know that can be hard) but being accountable is a great barrier too.

well done on looking for help, read and post here, there are some wonderful members, use the helpline and groups, it all adds up.  
Love K xx

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