8 August 2023 at 7:58 pm #180353
Good afternoon to all, this is the first time on forums of this format.But I no longer have the strength to cope with my psychological dependence on slot machines and gambling. Here’s my story.My name is Vlad, I am 27 years old and I come from Belarus.The experience of casino games is about 7-8 years with interruptions, but the last two years I have been dragged up to my ears in the game.Debts, loans, lost health, both physical and psychological.It is very difficult to live with this problem.I turned to my relatives with this problem, told them everything as it really is.My mother turned away from me and stopped communicating, there is no support from my brother, my wife left in search of a better life with another person.Suicidal thoughts are visited.I don’t know how to deal with this problem correctly.Psychological hypnosis didn’t help me. People, help with advice!I can’t stand it anymore!
8 August 2023 at 8:17 pm #180381velvetModerator
Well done writing your first post, I am so pleased you have spoken.
Here, you are understood and there is support available for you.
Many people do not understand when they are told that a loved one has a serious gambling problem – turning away is easier for them to cope with than trying to understand but this is not true of everybody.
Please keep posting and talking, contact our Helpline and join our gambler group facilitated by Charles.
You have hidden strengths – I know this because I know how much courage it took to write your first post.
Please allow us to support you.
I am listening and I will follow your progress.
9 August 2023 at 1:26 pm #180392
The taste for normal life disappeared, slot machines began to dream.Tired of waking up in a cold sweat.I even cried several times after breakdowns.Loans have consumed my life so much that I can’t afford basic things like food, going to the hairdresser and the like.I feel doomed to fail.
9 August 2023 at 1:30 pm #180387lilac88Participant
Hi Vlad, I am so sorry you are going through this. I am new to recovery and don’t really have any advice for you, except to keep on fighting. Coming here and sharing this is a great step. I just joined tonight as I am feeling I need the support from others. I am too ashamed to tell my friends and only a couple family members and my therapist know. I am 35 and feel like I have ruined my life. It was when I started feeling the suicidal thoughts that I really knew I needed to reach out for help. Please know that it is not worth ending your life. I am here anytime you want to talk 🙂
9 August 2023 at 2:55 pm #180409DuncKeymaster
Im so glad you sought out support for yourself. Maybe a great starting place would be to know more about you, Would you consider starting your own thread
It takes courage to admit we have suicidal thoughts, have you contacted anyone to talk these through ? I believe your in the USA, please reach out and speak to someone http://www.suicide.org/hotlines/suicide-hotlines-us.html
Im looking forward to following your own thread
9 August 2023 at 1:30 pm #180391
Also, my problem is that I have frequent breakdowns against the background of winning a lot of money from my colleagues at work, I do not understand how this affects me…Maybe it’s a kind of envy?Although I am sincerely glad of their victories.But at the same time, I am again drawn to the casino game. Attempts to close the entrance to yourself through your passport (there is such an opportunity in our country) did not succeed, I started playing on the websites of other countries. I want to return to normal life without this addiction.It’s an extremely difficult time for me right now.Both emotionally and financially.I understand how to change the situation, but psychologically I am taken to the sidelines and everything starts anew.
9 August 2023 at 2:56 pm #180377velvetModerator
Hello Peperovich and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums
Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!
Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.
As well as the forums New Members are invited to join Charles in the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK)
And on that note….
I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂
The Gambling Therapy Team
9 August 2023 at 6:06 pm #180417
I am very glad, sincerely glad that people really read this and help someone with words, and someone with deeds!I decided to keep this blog in order to make it really easier for me, because there is no one to help me (from people close to me).No matter how difficult it is for me, but now I already understand that I am not alone, and I have to fight with my habits and weakness myself, because no one will help until you really want it yourself.Today is my first day without a game, well, how to say without a game…I play the application for virtual credits, I would like to remove this, but perhaps with time…I’m afraid that tomorrow, the salary will come to my bank account, and I will turn off my path again…. In the meantime, I sat down in writing this text, I feel bad, and it hurts to write it, in the realization that I personally aggravated my situation.No matter how difficult and difficult it is for me, I PROMISE this site that I will deal with my addiction, even if not immediately, even through breakdowns and relapses, but I will get out.
9 August 2023 at 6:14 pm #180419
Also, for anyone who wants to communicate with me and help me, I can provide my social networks
10 August 2023 at 7:40 pm #180450charlesModerator
Hi Peperovich, well done on looking for help.
Also well done on getting yourself excluded from your local casino. For the online sites you have started usig you can also ask the ones you have signed up to to exclude you. There are blockers you can get whoch will prevent you signing up at others on your devices.
I recommend not getting involved in your colleagues gambling discussions. A few “I’m not interested because I’ve decided to stop gambling” should help with that. People only talk about their wins anywasy so don’t belive them.
Read the other stories here. You will read a lot that you will relate to. You will also see the success stories and the sorts of things that have helped others stop gambling.
As well as getting excluded from those gambling sites one of the other barriers you will read about is to do with the finances – accountability and restricting access to funds with which you can gamble will help.
You have presented your family with the problem; now you can show them by your actions what you are going to do about it.
Using support is important and you now have a lot of it available. You have this forum, the support groups and the helpline here. I also see that there are Gamblers Anonymous meetigns in your country and that would be anotehr great form of support. Here is a link so you can find a meetign near you. https://www.gamblersanonymous.org/ga/addresses
Keep posting but please do not, as you suggest, post your personal social networks here as they would have to be removed. Please read our terms and conditions.
Keep posting and hopefully I will see you in one of the groups here soom.
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