7 September 2013 at 7:24 pm #9044governor2012Participant
It’s Saturday. College football day. I just saw a QB throw an interception and had a revelation: What a metaphor for my gambling habits.
After the interception, the QB walked off the field, defeated, angry at himself, cursing at himself, embarrassed, ashamed, boy what he would do to have that play back.
That’s me after I lose at the casino. I would kill for a do-over. But there are no do-overs in life.
The commentators were talking about how coaches remind their QB’s after an interception to have a short memory, to forget that interception, it happened now get over it, go play football.
It’s good advice. I continue to beat myself up for days, even weeks, after a gambling binge. But what’s done is done.
I’ve been in denial for some time now. I thought I was in control. I thought I could stop anytime I wanted. I thought I could go with a limit on betting. But I can’t. I’ve got a problem and I realize that now.
I’m going to get my life back. The interception happened. It’s over. Now go play football. I’m in denial no longer. I have a problem but I CAN fix it.
Thanks for listening.8 September 2013 at 1:26 am #9045danchaserParticipant
Dude, I think that metaphor nailed it. I really like it.
If the QB focuses on the interception, then on next drive he won’t be able to focus on those upcoming plays, or worse, ***** try to make up for the interception by creating a big play, and in doing so substantially increase the odds that ***** throw another interception.
I feel this exact way about recovering from gambling. If I can’t let the money go and move on, then the only thing left is to win it back. I’ve been in that exact spot a couple of different ***** in recovery and have thrown another interception trying to make up for the last one. This last time (after two years of not gambling) I convinced myself that I could make up for the last interception(s) by throwing a series of short passes (small bets). When the short passes were incomplete, forcing me to make up the yards another way, I started throwing the hail mary.
Wouldn’t you know it, another interception.8 September 2013 at 2:05 am #9046paul315Participant
Originally posted by governor2012… But what’s done is done. I’ve been in denial for some time now. I thought I was in control. I thought I could stop anytime I wanted. I thought I could go with a limit on betting. But I can’t. I’ve got a problem and I realize that now. I’m going to get my life back …
Good evening Governor, welcome to GT, a place where getting your life back can provide a road map to follow. It is found in the postings of others and the advice that you find in learning about their journey — you are not alone.
My name is Larry and I too am a compulsive gambler, my last bet was October 17, 2011, a bet after over 4 yers of being gambling free and attempting to throw the Hail Mary pass that Danchester referred to, a desperate act that ended in not only an interception but a lost of the game and a setback in the standings. Now I am working more at getting my life back and living gambling free instead of just being gambling free. Both is a One Day At A Time process, but I feel that working towards a real life that is gambling free is better than just working at stopping gambling. We have all stopped gambling many ***** before when in denial, it was easy, but now that you know that you are a CG its will be a big help in moving forward and correcting the things that this addiction feeds on — the way to combat the addiction is to make changes in your character, lifestyle, and way of thinking.
Interceptions may be part of the game, but once they happen it is like you say, it happened and its over — recovery is progress not perfection, and progress is moving the ball forward in spite of any loss of yardage.
God’s speed, use your Higher Power to guide and strengthen you.
LarryThanks to my Higher Power, My 3G's – God, GA, and GT, "Day Two Is Another Day Behind" and with the help from all I hope to continue to remain gambling free.9 September 2013 at 8:15 am #9047DuncKeymaster
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