24 December 2019 at 6:23 pm #70031961ClydeParticipant
I have just discovered my sister has a problem with fruit machines.
Probably not bookies but amusement arcades certainly.
She has needed care since birth. Can function to meet her own needs
if she has the funds which she has never gone short of.
She held down a job she got after leaving school until made redundant and
has never worked since. She is extremely trusting to people and can get
talked into anything. eg. She bought a complete kitchen from a door to door
salesman. It couldn’t fit into the house. The redundancy money went.
My other sister and I thought she had been taken advantage of by some
bloke. But it seems it went on fruit machines from bank accounts seen by us.
Now the money is gone she lives from an account with limited funds.
She won’t be short unless she blows it.
Now she has started to lie about having no money.
She is blowing her limited funds.
She is an addict.
She will always need care. Has no idea about forms and all that. And thank
whoever she has no idea how to work a PC but the mobile is a worry. Far to easy on a mobile.
She actually does have a care worker who takes her out shopping and stuff like that and have
told my other sister we need to speak with this worker alone to find out how much she is
actually responsible for her in regards to her care.
As a family we have a responibility to care for her. And that includes after we are gone.
None of us are getting any younger. And I don’t want to leave her in a position where she
is a danger to herself along with all her other problems.26 December 2019 at 10:07 pm #7004velvetModerator
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The Gambling Therapy Team3 January 2020 at 7:31 pm #7005i-did-itParticipant
I can understand your concern regarding your sister. You say she has a care worker – does this person help with her money management? Does your sister have a social worker? This would be a good place to start as she may need someone to control there amount of money she has at her disposal .
With regard to the mobile phone, it is easy to put a gambling blocker such as “gamban” on her phone.
I’m not sure quite how much your sister understands about what is happening but it is important that everything is explained to her and that her opinion is respected on every decision.
Perhaps it would also be worth talking to your sister’s social worker (if she doesn’t have one you may need to apply for a disability social worker) to find out if she has other activities to fill her times if not perhaps they could also signpost her to suitable activities.
If you check the forums for people who gamble there will be lots of advice on there on barriers to prevent gambling.
There are also groups on here which you might find useful where you can chat to others.
Your situation sounds quite unique, and your concern for your sister is admirable – I hope my post helps a little.
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