18 November 2021 at 9:58 pm #143324hooteeParticipant
Hi, I’m hootee and I’m a gambling addict.
My career started way back around 2005 as a poker player – but I soon found myself using all the winning in slot machines instead of getting anything withdrawn. I was hooked on my first “big win” that went “all the way”. As we started calling them with my friend years and years later, but I digress. The hook was there and I took the bait. Or should I say I ate the whole hook and never even got to taste the bait?
In 2012 my father passed away suddenly and the first real signs of a problem emerged. I took a huge amount and in 15 minutes with high stakes it was gone. *poof*. Just as I had planned in my mind, I thought and went out on a cigarette. You see, I’ve never been good with money – so I never felt that heritage was mine in the first place. I felt no “attachment” to it. At that point I was reminded of my easily addictive behavior – I’d dropped alcohol just a few years earlier – and was aware of the 12 step program. Heck, I had been working on it for years, but never had it crossed my mind to use it against my gambling.
The thing with addictions is, that one can rarely get by on their own with it, so around 2017 I found myself back at the tables. This time, though, I paid no attention to poker, but the slot machines took all of my attention. And heck, why wouldn’t I spend all the money from the job I had just gotten, that paid decently? It was mine to spend, wasn’t it? But it wasn’t enough. I had to take loans, quick loans, with tremendous interests. And this is something done by junkie teenagers in my country, who are in their twenties at max. I was almost 35, for Pete’s sakes! I kept telling myself “I’ll pay it all back – once I hit big” – which I never did. And that’s what we’re good at – lying to ourselves, “I will when…”
Instead of the “big one” all I got was debtor’s letters, which I eventually stopped opening altogether.
And I kept playing – counting all my money to the cent; eating only porridge for days if need be. Just that I could gamble just a bit more. Until last summer – something had snapped and I started to talk to other’s with gambling problems about not playing anymore. And eventually to be the master of one’s money again. Well, it’s been a few weeks now and even being on “step Zero” still, I’m feeling refreshed, a-new, full of hope and anticipation of things to come – better things – that is. I’m fortunate enough to live in Finland and to be under a certain casino’s jurisdiction, which offers their players a “guarantee” – free counselling when one admits to having a problem. And I was approved just days after I’ve given them a call! This will mean months of therapy via Teams, but am willing to do everything – to be free to do anything again!
Better things are coming, I know that much at this stage.
Just bit off-topic; I’ve managed to make a whole turnaround on many things in a short period – diabetes under control, weight-loss, gave up smoking and what else will follow?
TL:DR – Hi, I’m hootee and I’m a gambler – but I’ve started to fix that and better times- they are a-coming!
18 November 2021 at 9:58 pm #143326charlesModerator
Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums
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And on that note….
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