10 January 2022 at 7:07 pm #146515pucograndeParticipant
I am a new member here and gambling has destroyed a large sum of my life
I want to live a life free of gambling and I’m here as the best alternative rather than suicide
Gambling has put me away from work , family and everything
I’ll like to meet someone to guide me through this
10 January 2022 at 7:08 pm #146618charlesModerator
Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums. By posting to the forums you’re allowing the diverse and caring Gambling Therapy community to help support you through the difficulties you’re facing.
This may well be a tough time for you – particularly if you’re new to recovery, so we encourage you to post here as often as you need to, as well as making use of the online groups and the live advice helpline if you’d like some one-to-one support. We’re all in this together! If you’re a new member, you are warmly invited to join Charles in one of the New Members Practical Advice groups (Mondays at 21:00 UK Time and Thursdays at 19:00 UK Time).
The forum is a great place to share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. By writing it all down you can start to build a record of your progress that you can look back on – particularly useful if you’re ever feeling stuck. Share as much or as little as you like – but you’re encouraged to stick to keeping to just one thread in this forum – so people know where to find you to check in on your progress or to share something with you.
The Gambling Therapy staff team don’t generally post to the forums as it is a peer support area of the site – so we’ll hand you over to the community from here.
The Gambling Therapy Team
10 January 2022 at 7:53 pm #146622charlesModerator
Hi Pucogrande, welcome to the forum. Well done on looking for help. You now have a lot of support available to you, both here and elsewhere. I know it is a bit of a cliche but there is a saying – suicide is a long term solution to a temporary problem. There is a lot of life after gambling I can assure you. If you do ever have those thoughts though then here is a link where you can always find someone to talk to. https://www.befrienders.org/
Read the other stories here, you will see a lot that you will relate to. You will also read the success stories – what are they doing that you can apply to your own situation?
Barriers can help, particularly in the early days. You will see that many self exclude from the places/sites where they usually gamble. If you gamb le online then there are also blockers that will stop you signing up at other sites. Another barrier relates to the finances. It sounds like your family are aware of the problem so I expect someone close to you can help with some accountability. Limiting your easy access to funds with which to gamble. It would still be your money of course – accountability would just mean you would find it harder to gamble and not be able to do so secretly.
Barriers aren’t the total answer to addiction of course – but they beat the hell out of willpower alone. They give breathign space so you can start work on your recovery, finding other ways to fill time etc. Most importantly use support – you have these forums, the groups and a 1 – 1 helpline here. There is also other support – if you connect to the Helpline of groups then you can get signposted to support in your area.
Keep posting and hopefully I will see you in a group here soon. You can stop gambling I promise you.
11 January 2022 at 1:31 am #146640Cruising247Participant
Recovery is one day at a time.
Start a journal on the forum and check in daily for accountability.
I check in when I don’t have any thing new to talk about. It just helps me to stay on track when I come on and update my gamble free days on my journal thread. I’m on day 66.
Just remember, quite a few of us relapsed before getting it right. But, everyday is a challenge trying to stay gamble free, but it is worth the end result.
Hang in there, you got this.
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