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    I’ve had a problem for quite a long time now, but I would always tell myself that I didn’t, and I would believe myself.
    In October my wife found out that in the last 9 months I had gambled away £10k, I had taken out loans, taken out credit cards, lied to my parents about needing money for bills, lied to my wife as to why there were no funds available for us to go out and do anything, she warned me at that point that I was on my last chance, the amount that I had lied to her about things almost pushed us over the edge.
    I went from October to February without a problem, but then she went away for a week, it was just me and the kids, and I went back to my old ways, I’d told myself that it wasn’t as harmful this time because I was dealing with much smaller amount – £22 in a month instead of what it had previously been – but I’d still kept it from her, she found out about it again on Tuesday and immediately told me not to bother coming home from work that day, find somewhere else to stay, I ended up in a hotel for two nights and it gave me an insight into what my life would be like if I didn’t stop this, and I really didn’t like what I saw, I’m feeling confident that I can turn things around, but I am also terrified of what might happen the next time I get that urge.
    Me and my wife are currently on good speaking terms, I am back in the house but we are sleeping separately, we have opened up multiple lines of communication and have spend so much of the last three days just talking and explaining our feelings and emotions about things, however she has made it very clear that if this happens again then our relationship would be over.
    I’ve signed up with GamStop, so that should prevent an immediate relapse, I was wondering what other people had found to be a suitable and healthy coping mechanism, be it online or out in the real world, ideally I would like to avoid substituting the gambling for gaming as I have found that just allows me to transfer the issue to something else, I would also like to minimise the cost of the coping mechanism.
    Any thoughts or advice would be greatly appreciated, I really love my wife and children and sitting here right now I know I couldn’t handle being separated from them, but I am also terrified that when the urge comes on I’ll find myself some excuse that allows me to slip back into gambling which will effectively throw away the last 12 years of marriage.
    Thankyou in advance.


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