27 July 2018 at 10:01 am #6344Dell88Participant
i met my new partner a few months ago. He was open early on and told me he had been going to GA for a few weeks. i Am looking for some advice / help on him dealing with the realisation of the impact this had on hiis past relationships and how to help him deal with the guilt he is currently experiencing.
Itd a fairly new relationship but I want to be able to support and help and hope we can move forward and get life back in track.
Any advice welcome
thanks27 July 2018 at 2:27 pm #6345DuncKeymaster
Thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy friends and family forum. This forum will provide you with warmth and understanding from your peers.
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You’ll find a lot of advice on this site, some of which you’ll follow, some you won’t…but that’s ok because only you fully understand your situation and what’s best for you and the people you love. So, take the support you need and leave the advice you don’t because it all comes from a caring, nurturing place 🙂
We look forward to hearing all about you!
The Gambling Therapy Team27 July 2018 at 11:28 pm #6346velvetModerator
It’s a bit late for me so this will just be a quick reply to let you know you have been heard and how much I appreciated your desire to help your partner because it is a fact that compulsive gamblers benefit from good support from their loved ones, so well done.
I understand his feelings of guilt but they are unnecessary because he didn’t ask for or want his addiction – I am sure he would love to be able to gamble as others do but the the nature of his problem means that he cannot gamble responsibly and possibly/probably never will be able to do so.
Listening is more important than trying to talk a CG (compulsive gambler) into stopping gambling or trying to help him deal with past relationships affected by his addiction. When you have gained knowledge of his addiction it will help you give good support – so keep posting.
Enjoying your time together is very important so have fun whilst taking great care of yourself. Keep up with your other friends and hobbies – don’t allow concern for his addiction to fill your mind 24 hours a day.
I will write again shortly by which time I will have put together some thoughts for you.
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