[Nic1231]

Hi

I’m new to this site and looking for some advice. I discovered this weekend that for the second time in less than a year my husband has built a massive amount of debt on credit cards gambling.

I am probably a bit shell shocked at the minute but also feel very hurt and let down. I know he needs help but don’t know where to start.

Any suggestions gratefully received.

Thanks

[velvet]

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Hello Nic

Thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy friends and family forum. This forum will provide you with warmth and understanding from your peers.

Feel free to use the friends and family group, you’ll find the times for these if you click on the “Group times” box on our Home page. Now that you have introduced yourself you’ll find that many of the people you meet here have already read your initial introduction and they’ll welcome you in like an old friend 🙂

If you’re the friend or family member of someone who is either in, or has been through, the GMA residential programme please take extra care to make sure that nothing you say in groups, or on our forums, inadvertently identifies that person. Even if your loved one isn’t connected with GMA, please don’t identify them either directly or indirectly just in case they decide to use the site themselves.

You’ll find a lot of advice on this site, some of which you’ll follow, some you won’t…but that’s ok because only you fully understand your
situation and what’s best for you and the people you love. So, take the support you need and leave the advice you don’t because it all comes from a caring, nurturing place 🙂

We look forward to hearing all about you!

Take care

The Gambling Therapy Team

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[velvet]

Hi Nic
You have already started getting help by posting here where all you are going through is understood.
Does your husband accept that he has a problem? Did the first massive amount of debt get cleared and if so how?
Of course you are shell-shocked and feeling hurt but your husband has probably got himself into this mess without realising he was on a downward slope – once he had started slipping he would have felt he couldn’t stop and believed that chasing his debts would sort out his problem. You and I know that this doesn’t work but he appears to be unaware of this at the moment.
There is a Friends and Family group tomorrow evening 20.00-21.00 hours UK time where we can communicate in real time and you would be very welcome but please keep posting. The more knowledge you gain about your husband’s problem, which could be an addiction, the more power you will have to cope and support both of you.
Maybe you could tell him that you are seeking support and let him know there is a lot of support for him too.
I wouldn’t be writing to you if i didn’t know that the addiction to gamble can be controlled.
Velvet

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