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31 December 2014 at 3:46 pm #27947charlesModerator
Ok, who is making not gambling a New Years Resolution?
Great idea of course…. how many times have you made it before? I know I did lots of times!!
So what’s going to be different this time?
I think it’s a human reaction to rebel against not being able to do something. Take a diet – NOT eating snacks between meals is hard, a positive resolution to eat a piece of fruit between meals is more likely to succeed.
So yes make that no gambling resolution but back it up with positive actions, positive resolutions. This year i will be honest with my partner, this year I will be accountable, this year I will get to a GA meeting, this year I will post on the forum at least x number of times a week…. etc etc
Now please post your resolutions here, gambling related or not, but please also post the positive actions you are going to take to give those resolutions more chance of success.
Happy New Year.
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31 December 2014 at 7:03 pm #27948mickyParticipant
This year my new years resolution is not to gamble, to explain to the bank i need a less withdrawal amount on my debit card and to self exclude from the bookmakers i frequent. Also to be patient in everything i do, thinking things through and then deciding on my opinion or actions.
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23 February 2015 at 6:29 pm #27949charlesModerator
Ok, so I haven’t made a New years resolution in years. Any changes I need to make I try and make as and when become aware that i need to.
This year I thought of one though. 🙂 I listen to a lot of news and sport on the radio, quite a lot when i’m dog walking. Pretty boring really and it tends to be just on whatever the subject being discussed.
My Resolution was to listen to more music!! It’s still going and unless there is something i am particularly interested in on the News and Sport channel i quickly retune to either Planet Rock or BBC Radio 6 Music.
Dog walks and life have become a tiny bit more pleasant than they were already 🙂 Anyone else? Who made a resolution and is it still going? How has to changed your life?
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24 February 2015 at 2:12 am #27950kpatParticipant
I made a resolution to get more sleep. Not by sleeping in, but by going to bed earlier. I am trying to be in bed by 10, with lights off by 10:15. It is helping me get up more easily amd making me less grumpy in the mornings. Overall, I am able to handle stress better because I am well rested.
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24 February 2015 at 9:44 pm #27951jansdadParticipant
Instead of making resolutions when this year began I decided it would be a year of convalescence for me. I would get into good habits, I would try and exercises more, eat better, sleep better, spend more quality time with my boy and my wife, be more careful with money, learn new things, work on old business ideas…
And I’m not doing to badly, other than the horrible relapse… I’ve gone 14 times to the gym this year which is more than I’ve gone over the past 5 years, I try not to go to the bed too late, I try to spend more time with my boy and talk more to my wife. I’ve always eaten relatively healthy, but now I try not to eat after 8pm. And like that.
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25 February 2015 at 9:53 am #27952I_MaverickParticipant
I think you say something very interesting here. Habits. Gambling is a habit for us, so when we don’t gamble we feel empty. What we sued to spend so much time doing and thinking about is no longer there. I found I spent time regretting, living in the past, lamenting. This is unhealthy. I am totallu afraid for my future, but I think I want to embrace that.
Career wise I am in a precarious position. I don’t really know my skills in the wider world having run my own business for so long and that enabled me to gamble. I feel it is time to work for someone else, to be put in a position where I am accountable. I think the freedom of running a business meant I could slack off, get my staff to pick up the pieces.
My plan for this year was so different to what is going on. We were meant to finish this project and then take a break to consider. Instead, everyrthing is going to shit – because I gave in to the urge and I gambled. And once I started I couldn’t stop.
Thus it will ever be. Even now, I have having urges – pictuing myself slinking off to a cafe for lunch, firing up the site and having a few hands. But a few hands turns into hours. If I am up I cannot leave and if I am down I cannot leave. How can I ever play normally if everytime I play it gets out of hand.
Like many of you I am sure, althought I don’t know, a voice in my head says it will be different this time. I know for a fact it won’t, because if I play once, then between playing all I do is think about how to play again. And that means I don’t focus on my job, because I am having gambling thoughts. And I think that’s why i relapsed last time – I didn’t deal with those gambling thought/ urges. I felt it has been such a time between that this time would be different. It was for the first week, I only played when I had time – but then the urge to play was stronger and stronger.
It’s like smoking – you satisfy an urge, it goes away, but then the urges come again. I know if I accept the urge, they pass and my mind can focus. It’s a mental trick. A mental trick played by my mind which I can play back.
Love you all, gotta focus now on finishing this delivery.
Mav
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