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10 September 2016 at 9:17 pm #7882bcfc1903Participant
My debts have been growing for a long time now, I told my wife about 9 months ago. We refinanced everything and she was ace. I gave up for a couple of months but now I’m back at it and worse than ever. Shes now pregnant, I cant tell her again. Once again I try and refinance my money without her noticing- it really is a down hill path. I just can’t stop. Tonight I need to win on the boxing just to reclaim a 10th of the amount i’ve gambled the past few days.
I dont enjoy it. I dont even enjoy winning cause I know I will end up losing it.
I cant go public about it due to my job and like today, I’ve had a bad day at work so I canme home went to bed and …. lost
Fed up and dont see any light.12 September 2016 at 9:03 am #7883DuncKeymaster
Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums
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The Gambling Therapy Team12 September 2016 at 9:44 pm #7884charlesModerator
Hi bcfc and well done on looking for help.
I would recommend copying your post over to the My Journal Forum, it’s a busier forum and you will get more feedback and support.
I would recommend finding a way to talk to someone, trying to keep hidden debts secret can in itself send peole gambling.
How about getting a blocker for your computer so that you can’t visit those gambling sites?
There is a lot of support you can use that doesn’t risk “going public”. Sites like this of course, places like Gamblers Anonymous – it is what’s said on the tin.
Keep posting and let us know what positive steps you are taking. Again I would recommend reposting in the My Journal Forum.5 October 2016 at 4:25 pm #7885AnonymousGuest
You must tell her soon cause then she can take steps to prevent it re-occurring. I used to hide it from my parents and that made it way worse in the long run.
When you don’t tell those closet, the true extent, you emotionally isolate yourself, and them, further.
In my experience the more secretive and isolated the gambling and problems are, the longer they drag on for and the worse they get.
Maybe its best to do the unthinkable and tell everyone what an idiot you’ve been.. to break your own cycle?
wish you all the best and remember don’t try to beat the sports odds compilers – you are not a team of expert statisticians!
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