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  • #78344
    kin
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    201) A.A. has a wrench to fit every nut that walks through the door.
    202) Living in the here and now.
    203) How does one become an old-timer? Don’t drink and don’t die.
    204) A.A. spoils your drinking
    205) Faith is our greatest gift; its sharing with others our greatest responsibility.
    206) If you want to drink, that is your business…if you want to quit and can’t, that is A.A.’s business.
    207) In a bar, we got sympathy—–as long as our money lasted. In A.A., we get understanding for nothing.
    208) My worst day in sobriety is better than my best day drunk.
    209) The elevator is broken——-use the Steps.
    210) Let it begin with me.
    211) When all else fails, the directions are in the Big Book.
    212) Trust God, clean house, help others.
    213) Anonymity is so important it’s half of our name.
    214) If we don’t grow, we gotta go.
    215) All you need to start your own A.A. meeting is a resentment and a coffee pot.
    216) Religion is for those who fear Hell, spirituality is for those who have been there.
    217) Intolerance= Contempt, prior to investigation.
    218) When you are a sponsor, you get out of yourself. If I serve, I will be served.
    219) Why recovery never ends: the disease is alcoholism, not alcoholWASm.
    220) The A.A. way of life is meant to be bread for daily use, not cake for special occasions.
    221) The smartest thing an A.A. member can say is, help.
    222) You are exactly where you are supposed to be.
    223) God will never give you more than you can handle.
    224) Slow but sure.
    225) A coincidence is a miracle in which God chooses to remain anonymous.
    226) There is no such thing, as a bad meeting.
    227) Give time time.
    228) I can do something for 24 hours that would appall me if I had to keep it up for a LIFETIME.
    229) The lesson I must learn is simply that my control is limited to my own behavior, my own attitudes.
    230) A.A. works for people who believe in God. A.A. works for people who don’t believe in God. A.A. NEVER works for people who believe they ARE God.
    231) Just for today I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle my whole life problems at once.
    232) There are two days in every week which we have no control over—-yesterday and tomorrow. Today is the only day we can change.
    233) It is not the experience of today that drives people mad, it is remorse of yesterday and the dread of tomorrow.
    234) A drug is a drug.
    235) Pain is the touchstone of spiritual growth.
    236) God has no grand kids.
    237) There is a God and I’m not it.
    238) The road to resentment is paved with expectation.
    239) Be nice to newcomers one day they may be your sponsor.
    240) Denial is not a river in Egypt, but you can drown in it.
    241) Guilt is the gift that keeps on giving.
    242) The flip side to forgiveness is resentments.
    243) There is no magic in recovery only miracles.
    244) Fear is the absences of faith.
    245) Courage is faith that has said its prayers.
    246) Depression is anger toward inward.
    247) Alcoholics heal from the outside in, but feel from the inside out.
    248) 3 A’s in A.A.—–affection/attention/appreciation
    249) If it is meant to be, I can’t stop it. If it isn’t God’s will, I can’t make it happen.
    250) There are A.A. members who make things happen there are A.A. members who watch things happen there are A.A. members who DON’T KNOW anything happened
    251) Don’t drink, don’t think and go to meetings.
    252) A.A. is the last stop on the train.
    253) One is too many, a thousand is not enough.
    254) To be of maximum service to others.
    255) We’ll love you, until you learn to love yourself.
    256) When you run out of quarters for your a–kicking machine, I’ve got an extra roll for you to use.
    257) Try to be grateful and resentful at the same time, you can’t serve two masters.
    258) Write a gratitude list and count your blessings.
    259) You can always tell an alcoholic, but you can’t tell him much.
    260) Faith chases away fear.
    261) Take other people’s inventory until you can take your own.
    262) Pain before sobriety and pain before serenity.
    263) Unity, recovery, and service.
    264) If you want to hide something from an alcoholic, hide it in the Big Book, because that’s where he’ll find it.
    265) Sobriety, then serenity.
    266) Live life on life’s terms.
    267) She came through the back door of A.A. (Alanon).
    268) When we couldn’t dominate, control, or manipulate, we would ask for terms and conditions.
    269) People who are wrapped up in themselves make a very small package indeed…
    270) The bottle, big house, or the box.
    271) Death, insanity, or recovery.
    272) We have a choice.
    273) We don’t get run over by the train, we get hit by the engine (1st. drink).
    274) If you wonder if you’re an alcoholic, you probably are.
    275) Instant a–hole, just add alcohol.
    276) I didn’t get into trouble every time I drank, but every time I got in trouble I was drunk.
    277) Insanity is defined as doing the same thing over, and over again, expecting different results.
    278) We are without defense against the first drink, our defense must come from a power greater than ourselves.
    279) Success means getting your BUT out of the way.
    280) Newcomer is someone with less than five years sobriety.
    281) The easier softer way is one through twelve.
    282) Don’t work my program, or your program, work THE program.
    283) If you want what we have and you’re willing to go to any lengths to get it
    284) Ask us how we did it, then do what we did.
    285) Qualifications for me to help you, one) you have to need it, two) you have to want it, three) you have to ask for it, four) you have to ask me.
    286) The alcoholic’s mind is like a bad neighborhood, don’t go there alone.
    287) Faith without works is dead.
    288) Get to the meeting early and go to the meeting after the meeting.
    289) The definition of an alcoholic; an egomaniac with an inferiority complex.
    290) Cunning, baffling, powerful, and patient.
    291) When the pain of staying sober becomes less than the pain of getting drunk, you’ll stay sober.
    292) None of us came here on a winning streak.
    293) The farther I get from my last drink, the closer I get to my next drunk.
    294) This, too, shall pass.
    295) Where do I find sobriety? Twelve steps past any lengths.
    296) How does it work? It works just fine.
    297) If you hang around the barber shop long enough, you’ll get a haircut.
    298) Don’t hang around wet places and wet faces.
    299) Once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic.
    300) I might have another drunk left in me, but do I have another recovery?

    #78345
    kin
    Participant

    301) Short version of the Serenity Prayer: Lighten up.
    302) You don’t have to wait till the basement to get off the down elevator.
    303) Those that don’t go to meetings aren’t present to find out what happen to them what doesn’t go to meetings.
    304) F.E.A.R.= False Evidence Appearing Real.
    305) F.E.A.R.= False Expectations Appearing Real.
    306) F.E.A.R = Face Everything and Recover.
    307) F.E.A.R.= F— Everything And Run.
    308) F.I.N.E.= F–ked-up, insecure, neurotic, and emotional
    309) G.O.D.=Group of Drunks.
    310) In A.A. I get an owner’s manual to go with my new life.
    311) N.U.T.S.=Not Using the Steps
    312) Y.E.T.=You eventually, too
    313) When you sober up a horse thief, all you have is a sober horse thief.
    314) First things first
    315) If you can’t remember your last drink, maybe you haven’t had it.
    316) If you want to stay sober, make the coffee.
    317) If you fly with crows, you get shot at.
    318) Analysis is paralysis.
    31) A.A. isn’t a religion, we can’t open the gates of Heaven and let you in, but we can open the gates of Hell and let you out.
    320) I got sick of being sick and tired.
    321) It’s easy to talk the talk, but you have to walk the walk.
    322) Life starts when you stop.
    323) You have to give it away in order to keep it.
    324) Fake it till you make it.
    325) It’s a selfish program.
    326) Today there’s still a monkey on my back. He’s just sleeping. He’s real easy to wake up.
    327) Fear alone won’t keep me sober, but for a newcomer, it’s not a bad place to start.
    328) I’ve been here a few 24 hours.
    329) H.I.T.-Hang In There.
    330) Under every dress there’s a slip
    331) You have to go to these meetings until you want to.
    332) Don’t let unpleasant people rent space in your head.
    333) Daniel didn’t go back to the lion’s den to get his hat.
    334) If you stick with the bunch, you’ll get peeled.
    335) It gets better.
    336) The doors swing both ways.
    337) You have to put in the time.
    338) Try it for 90 days, and if you don’t like it, we’ll gladly refund your misery.
    339) Don’t drink, don’t think, and don’t get married.
    340) Some people drink normally, and I normally drink.
    341) A slip is a premeditated drunk.
    342) A.A. is the easier, softer way.
    343) Go to meetings when you want to, and go to meetings when you don’t want to.
    344) It’s been a good meeting so far.
    345) None of us got here form drinking too much coffee.
    346) We have a disease that tells us we don’t have a disease.
    347) We have a living problem, not a drinking problem.
    348) We have a thinking problem, not a drinking problem.
    349) If you don’t want to slip, stay away from slippery places.
    350) The mind is like a parachute, it works better when it’s open
    351) Pain is the touchstone of progress.
    352) My daily sobriety is contingent on my spiritual condition.
    353) Yesterday is a cancelled check, tomorrow is a promissory note, only today is cash in the bank.
    354) F.A.I.T.H.: Fantastic Adventure in Trusting Him.
    355) Sorrow shared is halved; joy shared is doubled.
    356) There is pain in recovery. Misery is optional.
    357) Lead us not into temptation. I can find it myself.
    358) A treatment center is where you go and pay $15,000 to find out that A.A. meetings are free.
    359) Ask an alcoholic what time it is and he’ll tell you how to build a clock.
    360) Please be patient—God isn’t finished with me yet.
    361) I am unique, just like everybody else.
    362) Reality is for people who can’t handle drugs.
    363) My best friend became my worst enemy.
    364) When my insides match my outside, I’m practicing a good program.
    365) Today I soak up A.A. the way I used to soak up alcohol.
    366) When I drank, I was committing suicide on the installment plan.
    367) My Higher Power was: To Whom It May Concern.
    368) My first Higher Power was Howard, as in Our Father, who art in Heaven, Howard be thy name.
    369) I’ll always have another drunk in me, but I’m not sure I’ll have another recovery.
    370) Chairman at meeting asks: Anybody from out of town? Out of state? Out of their minds?
    371) A winner is a loser who keeps trying.
    372) I don’t always know what God’s will is for me, but I always know what it’s not.
    373) I didn’t get sober to be miserable.
    374) I didn’t experiment with alcohol and drugs. I was in advanced research and development.
    375) Are you walking towards a drink or away from one?
    376) God could and would if He were sought.
    377) I love you, God loves you, and there’s nothing you can do about it.
    378) Today I have more solutions than problems.
    379) If God is your co-pilot, switch seats.
    380) I did my drinking from Park Avenue to park bench.
    381) Don’t go in your head alone. It’s a dangerous neighborhood.
    382) With a stomach full of A.A., you won’t have room for a beer.
    383) Listen like only the dying can.
    384) If your ass falls off, put it in a paper bag and take it to a meeting.
    385) There’s safety in numbers. One through twelve.
    386) An ounce of prevention is worth a gallon of relapse.
    387) My disease is doing pushups, getting stronger–just waiting for me to slip.
    388) A.A. is a simple program for complicated people.
    389) My best thinking got me here.
    390) I am a walking miracle.
    391) Don’t romance the drink.
    392) When I start wondering if everything’s okay, it’s probably not.
    393) If hanging around A.A. doesn’t work, try hanging out inside A.A.
    394) Before I got into A.A., I was dying for a drink.
    395) God grant me patience. Right now.
    396) My sponsor says I’m trying. Very trying.
    397) 20/20: Come 20 minutes before the meeting, stay 20 minutes after.
    398) Don’t try to clear away the wreckage of the future.
    399) When the student is ready, the teacher appears.
    400) You can’t speed up your recovery, but you sure can slow it down.
    401) Every drink I drank got me here. Every drink I don’t drink keeps me here.
    402) It takes time to get your brains out of hock.
    403) Stand by the coffee pots. It’s a good way to meet people.
    404) People who think they know it all are very irritating to those of us who do.
    405) It don`t matter how your jackass got in a ditch, just get him out.
    406) Don’t drink or use between breaths.
    407) Always remember the insanity…Be thankful for the pain…But most of all be thankful for the days that remain.

    408) Three suggestions for making an A.A. speech:
    1).BE INTERESTING
    2).BE BRIEF
    3).BE SEATED

    409-417) The A.A. Paradoxes:
    From weakness(adversity)comes strength.
    —We forgive to be forgiven.
    —We give it away to keep it.
    —We suffer to get well.
    —We surrender to win.
    —We die to live.
    —From darkness comes light.
    —From dependence we found independence.

    #78352
    charles
    Moderator

    Sorry Kin,I missed the 5 minute warning. Speak next time.

    #78353
    kin
    Participant

    Hi Charles

    no problem at all, no worries.

    take care and God bless!

    #78355
    kin
    Participant

    Dear diary,

    The only way to keep from returning to active addiction is not to place that first bet. If you are like us you know that one is too many and a thousand never enough. We put great emphasis on this, for we know that when we gamble in any form, or substitute one for another, we release our addiction all over again.

    #78379
    kin
    Participant

    Dear diary,

    Working on another addiction after my gambling addiction was challenging. I become a new recovering person from another addiction all over again.

    I suffer from the usual withdrawal after I cut off everything suddenly. Abstinence was necessarily for my long term well-being.

    I have frequent thoughts to give up what I am doing. I like to break my abstinence. This is the struggles. It is giving me stress.

    On one hand, I need to concentrate and stay focus on staying stop. I tell myself that I only need to stop today. Tomorrow I do the same and deal with the current problem one day at a time. On the other hand, I need to remind myself not to listen to the lies that my mind tells me in my own voice all the times.

    What has help me was the mental strength I have gain recovering from other addictions, it has prepared me for this new challenge and kept the stress manageable. Otherwise, any unmanageable stress from dealing with a new addiction will surely affect my recovery from other addictions if the timing is wrong and I was not ready.

    I need to do it slowly and carefully; I was advised by an experience recovery person to start working with the addiction that is causing me the most trouble first. I have work on my alcoholism, workaholism, slot machine, sex, borrowing, casino table games, sports betting addictions. I learn in recovery not to do too many things in too little time.

    Now I am working on my addiction to carbs and sugar. I have just completed 14 days abstinence. I have never stay low carbs and sugar free for more than a month, not to mention 90 days. It is not easy but the health benefit is many.

    I wish to do this before it is too late for me to do anything when I no longer have the chance.

    The process is more important than the outcome for me. If I do the process correctly, the result will follow.

    What’s next after 14 days? I am not familiar with staying low carbs and sugar free doing one meal a day intermittent fasting. It is a new territory for me.

    All I know is to stay stop today. Tomorrow I do the same. One day at a time.

    I remember to seek progress, not perfection. We are not saint, no one is able to achieve perfect adherence.

    I am work in progress and under construction.

    • This reply was modified 1 week, 6 days ago by kin.
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    #78389
    kin
    Participant

    Dear diary,

    Recovery is all about the walk, not the talk.

    1. I need to do all the thing that help me to stay stop
    2. I need to do all the thing that help me to stay stop correctly
    3. I need to do all the thing that help me to stay stop correctly continuously

    #78391
    kin
    Participant

    Dear diary,

    Recovery is all about the walk, not the talk.

    1. I need to do all the things that help me to stay stop

    I need to have a realistic expectation, if I do nothing, I expect to get nothing.
    I need to put in effort and hard work to stay stop.

    2. I need to do all the thing that help me to stay stop correctly

    I tried very hard to stay stop and I failed every single time until one day I realized that I was not doing it correctly.

    3. I need to do all the thing that help me to stay stop correctly continuously.

    Once I stop doing all the things that keep me staying stop, naturally it is very easy for me to drift back to old ways.
    I need to be reminded of this danger and the heavy consequences and costly price that I have to pay as a result of my old ways.

    #78429
    Dark Energy
    Participant

    Hi kin,
    I used to see you posting every day and I noticed you didn’t post for a while,
    I hope everything is ok, keep posting I hope you all the best.

    #78432
    kin
    Participant

    Hi Dark Energy,

    Thank you for your post and best wishes.

    Just a little update; I am still gamble free and read the post here everyday but nothing has cross my mind recently to want to post anything here. Sometimes I joined the peer support and topic discussion support group meeting here in GT.

    I was recovering from a gambling addiction that is causing problem in my life; this condition has stabilize now and it is time for me to start working on my next addiction; I am also addicted to carbs and sugar. I am doing one meal a day intermittent fasting, it is day 21 for me today.

    The length of my abstinence goal/target each time depend on my strength and ability to maintain recovery on the addiction, I may set one year alcohol free target, and 3 months gamble free target but I can only set 2 weeks target for my food addiction each time. I achieve them one day at a time and repeat everything. Keeping the target short, manageable, achievable and realistic keeps me motivated.

    I continue to recover from multiple addictions. I am happy with the progress.

    Thank you God, GT, GA.

    • This reply was modified 1 week ago by kin.
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    #78435
    Dark Energy
    Participant

    Hi Kin,
    glad to hear everything is ok I was a bit worried about you.
    regarding the carbs addiction, I have tried the Keto diet and IF I lost 25+ kg and reached my target weight by the end of 2019, it was a good time at the end of December 2019 I was more than 6 months gambling free, everything was perfect then I relapsed many times after that and once I relapse everything scrambled again and I gain 20 kg gradually in the last 1 and half year.
    from my experience you just need to be low carb, don’t be very strict to limit it to 10 or 20 Gram of carbs per day it is a bit difficult to do so, you can go up to 50 grams and you will get the benefits of this diet, just don’t go all the way back to 100+ gram of carbs.
    being low carb is more important because it will make the IF easier for you, but if you tried only IF with a normal diet it will be a bit harder and the benefits will be less.
    good luck,

    #78436
    kin
    Participant

    Hi Dark Energy,

    Thank you for your good intention. I am so sorry to hear about what happen to you. All I can say is human made mistake, we are not perfect.

    Do you think it is more effective to work on one thing at a time? Imagine all the stress that you have put on yourself trying to handle so many things at the same time. Is it easier to do something slowly and carefully?

    You put in so much effort to build each of them and you do not want something new to upset everything. Stress is bad for people like us and not knowing how to manage stress can be very harmful to recovery.

    Is it too late to stabilize on one thing first before tackling the next thing? Imagine if the new one is not working, at least the old one is still standing strong and everything will not fall apart altogether.

    • This reply was modified 1 week ago by kin.
    #78437
    kin
    Participant

    Dear diary,

    I need to remind myself to trust God ‘s timing, not mine. I am always in a hurry but God is not.

    I need to be thankful for what I have; Never let the things and people I want, make me forget about the things and people I have.

    I am human, I will made mistakes but I must continue on this road to recovery.

    • This reply was modified 1 week ago by kin.
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    #78445
    kin
    Participant

    Dear diary,

    I will not hesitate to stop and rest or slow down my diet if it is causing too much stress and jeopardizing my gamble free abstinence.

    I need to protect and safeguard my recovery while I am repairing new area, in case anything go wrong.

    It is not worthwhile to sacrifice and lose everything in recovery for something that has little important.

    #78458
    kin
    Participant

    Dear diary,

    As long as I kept my recovery in other addictions stable, I can move on and work on the one that I neglect.

    Recently, fasting has done me wonder; it teaches me “WHEN” I eat was important. I eat when I am hungry. I can snack and have dessert immediately after meal but not in between meals for my health reasons.

    Recovery for compulsive gambling, it was about not placing the first bet, for alcoholism, it was about not picking up the first glass. What about food? Isn’t it tricky? I still need to eat when I am suffering from compulsive eating. What kind of abstinence do I practice here? Well, I practice staying abstinence from compulsive eating and emotional eating; escaping stress by eating; seeking pleasure from eating.

    Recovery is for life. It is a long term thing. I am still work in progress and under construction.

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