14 August 2010 at 7:16 pm #16812
im 18 ive lost all my money and my life sucks. How do i get over this. I got paid last night and have 0 left for the next 32 days. I cant tell anyone in person becuase im so embarresed about what i done. Its affecting my mood so badly and i cant concentrate ion anything but regretting it so badly. Yet a week passes and ill just do it again. I need to make this come to a end becuase its starting to make such a bad effect on my life its unreal. I wish the day i started playing poker with my uncle for 10 euros on holiday at 14 never happened. Gambling is ruining me and i cant seem to stop it and I really need some tips on how to overcome it. I can easily admit that im very addicted to gambling and that it has a extremely bad affect on my life. Today is the first day i have decided to stop and i know its going to be hard but im going to take every single day at once. I dont like my job and am depressed but i hope that it will take my mind offthings. Thanks for reading and any tips on stopping will be greatly appreciated.
14 August 2010 at 7:35 pm #16813female gParticipant
Hey welcome to you Harry and man you have so much living to do and all the time in the world to start doing just that!! that in itself isthe thing you need to realize from the get go. You can change everything and fix yourself so that you can look forward to realizing that what lies ahead can be so much more meaningful once gambling is out of your life. You Came here that is your first step. You realize that you are suffering from this addiction and that it is not worth it any more another step right!!! So now that you have opened the door it is time to relearn what life is like and should be like without gambling. Baby Steps One step at a time one day at a time. You have found the greatest support out there here you will not be judged and you can find solutions here. if you put them in place you will not fail. You must want this too and its liken to a roller coaster ride ups and downs but remember never give up because first and foremost you are worth all the effort it takes to stop the ride and get off to a better way of life. Adjustments will need to be made and you will need to change alot of behaviors but man will it be worth it in the long run so good on you for coming here. I suggest you read alot and journel too when ever you get urges come here read and remind yourself of how worthless it is to waste time and money in a place that could care less about you and on top of that clean you out and leave you hanging dry . Just a few thoughts for now hope this helps G
14 August 2010 at 10:15 pm #16814thegamblerParticipant
I am in a same situation last week i lost my rent and i lost 1300 pound which i get from my flatmate to pay the rent as well. i have to leave my flat on 29th of this mount and i have nothing left till next wendesday . i sold all my stuff my camera my old laptop and my benefit money as well.
nearlly 10 days ago i came here when i lost my rent money and i start to have a conversation with one of advicer here i t was the time that i still could pay the rent because my flatmate promissed me to hel me paying the rent .
in that conversation i did not accept that i need help and i told to adviser that i beleive human been can sort it out all his problems if he want . the advicer told me that i need help and i just ignored that with lots of way ,making excuses and talking nonesence about the power of human been .
the week after i was in mess .just on monday morning 9.08/2010 my flatmate gave me 1300 pound to pay the rent and at 11 am same day i lost that ,oney on betshops .
back home with no hope and shame and embaresing sweeting and unable to think at all my flatmate cames back and called me i opened the door of my room and i told him cl…. i lost again.
he was shocked he did not told me anything just he left the flat. i came here again and with a mental situation which i cant explain but i am quite sure you undrestand that ,in top right side of the homepage you can fimd live advice help;ine i went ther another adviser was there i dont know how i explain my situation i was just crying and typing
he told me do you want to go to gordon house?
i did not know what is gordon house i asked him a couple question and i told him yes please help me to go there
i am refugee in uk and my wife left me on 2004 and i dont have family or friend here eccept my flatmate whi is not any more here i have nobody to relay on him or her
i was frighten that time to be homeless as i am sick as well mentally suffering from deppration and anxity isorder ,
i accept to go to gordon house maybe that time because i was frighten to be homeless
he gave me a number i called them and another adviser guide me to download an application form and i print it out fill it sighned it and scaaned it and sentit back to gordon house associaation
2 days ago i got the answer and they accepted me to go there and today i found my self in another situation i found a person from my own country and maybe he could help me to find an accomodation when i have to leave this flat but i dont want to accept it do you know why?
because i know i cant sort it out my problem by myself i need help i need someone who can help me to get rid of this addiction and i know i am 100 percent sure i cant sort it out by myself and i need special help from someone who knows the nature of this addiction
and i want to go to gh and get help and sort it put my problem for ever
i dont want to be a coumpulsive gambler anymore i want to be free i dont want to be slave any more that is enough
my friend i am a forigner i am a refugee and still help is availble in UK for me defenitly there is help availble for you as well . you found already the way and you took the first step by posting your story aswell try and try and get in touch with those lovely kind expert adviser on live chat advise and asked them to guide you to the right direction
they knows what they are doing and they really care about every gambler
my friend i remember the time i was eating grass witha dog on park i remember the time i ate row meat because i did not feel ok to **** it .i remember the time for weeks i just took sedatove tablets to sleep and just drank tea
my friend it is horrible and defenitly you know as well
get in touch with them and ask help there is help availble for you just you have to ask and accept it
i wish all the best for you forgive me for my poor english language i am not english but honestly i have a big big big respect for uk and uk people they are really nice and freindly
all the best my friendhamed
15 August 2010 at 1:07 pm #16815
Thanks for the replys. Its day two of no gambling and i feel like i achieved something seeing as i had to go and gamble online or at the casino every day. However, i still feel bad becuase all i found myself doing yesterday was led on the couch with a blanket watching tv and feeling bad for myself. Ive always believed that there is no god, but since i reliased how bad i became i dropped what ive beleived for years and prayed. It didnt make me feel any better but it helped me bring out my emotions. I still havnt told anyone how bad it is out of my family and its starting to become very bad becuase when there smiling laughing and talking to me i cant bring myself to show any happiness at all. I hope that this will be the end of my gambling life. I feel like ive "learnt the lesson" too many ***** and pledged that i would stop too many *****, Thanks for any help. I hope we can all quit our obsessions together.– 15/08/2010 13:09:35: post edited by HarryP22.
15 August 2010 at 1:36 pm #16816thegamblerParticipant
i am happy for you mate but please go to meeting and dont relay just on your strenght we all need help to get rid of this addiction itry lots of time by myself and in the end i know i need help please go to meeting and asked them to help youhamed
15 August 2010 at 1:49 pm #16817paul315Participant
Originally posted by HarryP22
im 18 ive lost all my money and my life sucks. …
… all i found myself doing yesterday was led on the couch with a blanket watching tv and feeling bad for myself….
Good morning Harry, my name is Larry and I am a Compulsive Gambler, my last bet was August 13, 2009. Welcome to GT, it is a place you can find help; you will also find the friendship of others that have experienced all the things that you have and have felt all the same hurt and guilt – you are not alone in your trouble.
I will start by suggesting that you also start an additional topic in the "Ask Charley" Form, it is set up for those under 21, and although you are in reality an adult, your statement that you are "18 and your life sucks" suggest that another younger person visiting that site might offer additional help, or even be helped by your sharing. That forum is not very active but those who do visit may be of additional help. Even look into and read through the post in the "Friends & Family" Forum, there you will find parents and other loved ones talking about their children’s addictions and the actions of other young adults; you are not alone because of your age and will find that your life is not completely sucked up.
Next I will encourage you to continue to post here in the Journal Forum, it is where most of the information is found and you will receive the most responses; however, use all the features here, the Help Line, the Group Sessions, and the Open Chat Rooms on week-ends. You will even find additional ways to help you in the "Overcoming Problems" Forum. I am suggesting that you visit and participate in all these options not only to give you a verity of help, but, so that you will not just lay around hiding out watching TV during the start of your recovery, so that you will start taking actions that will allow you to get out and live a better life — "recovery does not come to us, we have to go after it.
In addition to taking the actions above, there are other actions you can take to help combat your urges and limit the opportunities for you to gamble. Install a game filter on your computer and ask that your credit cards be blocked from use in online gambling sites. If the cards can not be blocked by your banks, get rid of them, close them out. Also, talk with your family and ask that you be restricted from use of their computers as well, and ask for their help in your struggle with this addiction. They share all their happiness with you, they will also want to help you regain your life so that you can once again share yours with them.
God’s speed, use your Higher Power to guide and strengthen you.
Larry"Day Two Is Another Day Behind" – With the help of a Higher Power, My 3G’s – God, GA, and GT, I will continue to be gambling free.
15 August 2010 at 2:07 pm #16818therunnerParticipant
stick with this mate I am 42 days off tomorrow and while I am very up and down and some near scares my life is slightly better than where I was 42 days ago. I am not looking for a huge improvement but sick of going backwards been on the sofa feeling depressed is part of it I was like that for the first week but I am moving of now I mope round the garden and kitchen
15 August 2010 at 4:26 pm #16819
Thanks for the advice paul and yeah its a bad place to be therunner but i hope that this latest and biggest lost will be the finishing point for me and it wouldnt of been losti n vain but actually a money saver. I hope.
15 August 2010 at 6:03 pm #16820cully21Participant
My screen name is Cully21. It is very nice to meet you. Congradulatons of finding this site and community. Keep posting and stay connected. You will find many resources here. If you look to the right of the screen, you will see UNMODERATED CHAT that is open. You can click on there and see if anyone is there. If not, someone will more than likely show up. There are also numerous groups that meet during the week. This thread is great for you as you are an official young addult. Like Larry suggested, the under 21 section will enhance your support as well. Staying connected to both trheads and attending as many chats and groups is a great start. The more you share, the more we can all pull together. I am a CG also. Clean now for the last 12 weeks.
15 August 2010 at 6:31 pm #16821DuncKeymaster
Hi HarryP22, A Warm Welcome to Gambling Therapy
Having found us you have also found a diverse community who can help and support you on your recovery journey.
Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and non-judgemental environment and by reading others stories am sure you will see that you are very much not alone in this addiction
Please click here to see our services page, feel free to use all that this site can offer…
To chat with others in real time you may wish to make use of the support groups, the ***** of these groups are advertised under "What’s on and When" or click here to see the weekly group schedule.
For one to one chat you may want to try the live advice helpline. Click "connect" when these options become available.
Also to say when you registered we would have sent you an email with an attachment, this attachment will help you navigate the site and find the support you so rightly deserve, alternatively this guide can be downloaded by clicking here.
Harry"Occasionally its wise to doubt our doubts, to question our questions, and to re-think our thoughts."
15 August 2010 at 9:42 pm #16822pParticipant
You can do this, use the support here and keep coming here and checking in, try the group chat, the one on one line the boys are marvelous for helping you out of crazy thinking.. go to GA if you can, carry limited cash on you and no cards, ban where you can.. just keep consistently doing something each day to stay gamble free and know that if urges strike they always pass
P – Living and Learning
17 August 2010 at 11:34 pm #16823paul315Participant
Originally posted by harryp22 in the Overcoming Problems Forum
… I was just wondering if it made thigns better for you telling your family and how you did it
Good evening Harry,
I am posting my reply to your post in the Overcoming Problems Form here as well in case you only visit this page; and if you have alreay read it in the OPF, "only reread it if your have the time".
I see that Tim has forwarded your new topic to this Overcoming Problems Forum, I hope that you see this move as a way to help you get the answers that you ask and not as running you around. I too see this forum as being set up to discuss ways to overcome problems as the name imp***s, but our problems and our lives or so intertwined that most seem to stick to the Journal form. So, like suggested, keep reading and posting to both and you will widen your sources of help. And again, read the post in the F&F Forum, they are not CGs and can not tell you how they told their fami***s about their gambling, but you can see how they reacted to being told and learn of some of the support that you can expect, and what is to be expected of you – being honest is one.
I can not tell you about me telling my family, other than my children, but I can post some of the things about telling loved ones and about keeping secrets. Telling a spouse, significant other, or as in your case your parents, is a hard thing to do, mostly because you are also again admitting to yourself what you have done. But "admitting to ourselves and to another human" is one of the steps we must take to recover. In doing so, it might be best to do it now, as soon as possible – not convenient. Do it before they find out on their own – and they will, if not already known or highly suspected – thus adding to any mistrust you may face. You are at a good stage having started with a recovery process, showing them that you are sincere in facing your need to stop.
If and when you do this, it is vital to be completely honest with them (and yourself). Let them know of your total addiction and the reason for the lack of money. Do not hold anything back for later, telling a little at a time causes additional mistrust each time that you spill out a little more of the story, you will then have to face another barrage of questions and new mistrust. Each time you revise your story they will just think, "what next, what else are you hiding".
Another member has posted "Secrets keep us sick. As long as you continue to *** your way through life when it comes to gambling, you will remain in a cycle where you hate yourself so you gamble, you gamble and you hate yourself, and on and on it goes. I’m never going to say that quitting is easy, but it wasn’t as hard as I thought. I only had to white-knuckle it through the urges, and then I was okay. Give in to them…and I was right back on the treadmill.".
Keep these things in minds, things that others have experienced and found to be true and the best way to approach others. But whatever you decide, keep visiting and participating in the forms here, take action; and most of all Do Not Gamble For Anything, and during this time of abstinence, start making change to the things that allow the addiction to control – take back your life.
God’s speed. Stay strong. Be honest, openminded, and willing.
"Day Two Is Another Day Behind" – With the help of a Higher Power, My 3G’s – God, GA, and GT, I will continue to be gambling free.– 8/17/2010 11:44:00 PM: post edited by paul315.
18 August 2010 at 12:04 am #16824pParticipant
I hope all is going well for you today, keep posting and lets know how you are doing?
P – Living and Learning
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