29 December 2011 at 8:11 pm #2403faith7Participant
I am new to this site, and i am glad that i found a place when i can get help and advice. My boyfriend is a CG. He has been gambling for 5 years and he is only 21. Till this day he gambles and caused us to hit rock bottom in our relationship and with our finances. He gambled all of his money away, and very soon after has been asking me for money. I know that this was wrong of me, but i have basically given him all of my money and now we have nothing left. I have a 4 year old daughter and i am currently 9 months pregnant. I am due on Jan 28th and i have to wait until 2 weeks before my due date for my scholarship money, so that i can buy everything i need for a new born. I am not quite sure what exactly an enabler is, but i have a feeling that i am one. When he asked me for money i told him no. But he would beg and beg until he would call me the worst of names and make me break down and cry, that i would give him the money just so he would leave me alone. I feel like he has no love for me anymore. He is addicted to online gambline which includes online casino and betting for sports. When he has money in his account, he will wake up before the sun comes and up stay on the computer/tv to watch the games till sun down. He will bet on every game there is from football to hockey. He doesn’t put any time aside for me or my daughter. It has gotten worse in the past 3 months. Now that we are broke, he has been asking people for money and he tells them that he needs it to pay the electric bill and other bills, but when they give him the money, he goes to moneygram and puts it all in. He doesn’t spend a dime on gas or anything. It has gotten to the point where i stress over him and over money that i am done. I want to kick him out of my house, but i dont know if that is the best thing to do.
I really need someones advice on my situation.
5 January 2012 at 6:57 pm #2404m babzParticipant
Hi I am also new and have never posted before. I can understand the Hurt and pain you are feeling. I discovered my husband was a cg 3 months after we got married and a week after being discharged from hospital due to severe morning sickness. He gambled all our wedding money, 10 grand of my savings, 15 grand of his own savings and also ran up debts in excess of 20 grand. I found this all out just before Christmas last year. Forward to boxing night this year and also my birthday. He finally confesses that he has never stopped gambling and blatantly **** every time I asked if he was. Sorry to hijack your status but I really can relate to you. I just wish I was giving you advice but don’t feel I can giving my current situation.5 January 2012 at 7:05 pm #2405velvetModerator
Hi M babz
Please start your own thread or come into a group as Faith did.
You have given support by writing but I feel that you could use some support yourself. It is far better when the replies relate to ‘you’. Nothing that is said in a group appears on the forum.
It would be good to meet ‘you’ as a person
Velvet5 January 2012 at 7:22 pm #2406m babzParticipant
How do I start a thread or join a group? I’m on an iPhone as I no longer have a computer ( as that is how the majority of gambling is done)5 January 2012 at 7:56 pm #2407linda39Participant
you can use your phone i usually do!! Just web search the site then add it to your home page
Linda5 January 2012 at 7:58 pm #2408velvetModerator
Hi M Babz
At the top of this page on the right click on the word ‘connect’ by Friends and Family. I am opening in about 4 minutes
To start a thread go back to the page with the forums on it and click on ‘New Topic’ in the little box at the top. Give your thread a title and off you go. I look forward to seeing you.
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