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10 September 2021 at 7:01 pm #138114chazwick868Participant
Well on the weekend after 5 years of gambling……. writting this is hard to read ! I feel disgusted with my self. I have a partner and two amazing young boys. I look at at them an deep down inside I’m ashamed and I hate myself. I opened up to a family member the weekend and admitted what I was doing because the suicide thoughts were taking over and I was ready to act upon it but at the same time how can I be so selfish. I’ve not told my partner and it’s killing me inside how do I tell him his gonna hate me I deserve it. I’m already to take steps I’ve done self exclusion on game stop put gamban on my read ECT I can not let this ruin myself anymore. little things like getting my child a ice cream from the ice cream van and I have to say no because I just gambled 400 pound away while he is eating his breakfast.
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16 September 2021 at 7:24 pm #138460charlesModerator
Hi Chazwick and welcome.
Apologies that your post seems to have been missed here and hasn’t received a response. Ok, so you have told a family memeber, well done.
It’ll help to tell your husband. How? Well no easy way but it helps to not just present the problem. You can show him what you are going to DO about it. That makes a big difference. You have already installed Gamban so thats good. Another thing that you will see has helped others are financial barreirs and accountability. You only gambled that £400 because you had easy unaccountable access to it. But things in place so that you have less access, thigns that will mean that IF you gamble you KNOW that your husband will find out very quickly. With internet banking we can be pretty much instantly accountable. I have friends whose partners get a text every time they use tht bank card/account.
Using support such as here or places like Gamblers Anonymous meetings also give family etc reason to think we are serious about stopping.
It is an old saying – actions speak louder than words. The actions that will help you stop gambling are the same actions that can help rebuild trust.
I would also ask that you start a thread in the My Journa Forum. This Topic Group Forum is just that – a place where the Monday evening Topic groups are advertised/discussed. You will get a lot more support in the My Journal Forum. I will waitt a few days to give you a chance to post in that forum then I will delete this thread here.
You can stop gambling I promise you, just make sure you take the actions that will help you do so.
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19 September 2021 at 6:32 pm #138559sjc1Participant
Charles it’s so hard feeling guilty and just not being able to do anything / it sits inside and festers. I’m in the place where I can’t tell my partner/family. I’m so ashamed and guilty.
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23 September 2021 at 7:19 pm #138929charlesModerator
Hi sjc1. I would suggest the same to you as I did to Chazwick – I hope you start your own thread in the My Journal Forum. I see that you have already posted on others thrads there.
When it comes to family then there is no easy way of course but it helps to not just present tyhe problem – show them what you are going to DO about it. Family could help you with some of the barriers that will help you stop gambling. The actions that will help you stop gambling are the same actions that can help rebuild trust etc with those around us.
You can stop gamblintg I promise you, just use the support that is available – these days there is a lot of it.
If you can then pop into a group – the ones I facilitate are on a Monday and Thursday evening (UK times) we can talk througfh your options. Alternatively the helpline is also available every day where they can do the same.
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23 September 2021 at 7:19 pm #138930charlesModerator
Hi sjc1. I would suggest the same to you as I did to Chazwick – I hope you start your own thread in the My Journal Forum. I see that you have already posted on others thrads there.
When it comes to family then there is no easy way of course but it helps to not just present tyhe problem – show them what you are going to DO about it. Family could help you with some of the barriers that will help you stop gambling. The actions that will help you stop gambling are the same actions that can help rebuild trust etc with those around us.
You can stop gamblintg I promise you, just use the support that is available – these days there is a lot of it.
If you can then pop into a group – the ones I facilitate are on a Monday and Thursday evening (UK times) we can talk througfh your options. Alternatively the helpline is also available every day where they can do the same.
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