[anne24]

new2GT,
I hope that you and your daughter are doing well right now and that your husband has maybe begun to see the damage he’s doing to himself and his family. I am in the same exact situation as you. The only thing I can do right now is control the majority of our money so that our bills don’t default, ensuring that a roof stays over our head. My husband deals poker and is apparently saving up his bankroll to attempt professional poker playing, but as long as our bills are paid right now, I can’t help him further and he knows I don’t like the idea. He’s a lot like your husband too where he doesn’t want to go get a job. His defense is that he can make more money dealing/playing poker than working a job that doesn’t pay him well. I try to convince him that you have to work your way up from the bottom of the barrel sometimes, that’s what I’m having to do. He doesn’t care though and yes, it’s his addiction talking. To top it off, he’s a former alcoholic which makes everything a very delicate balance. In general, I think my husband really loves that “live fast” lifestyle that contributes to him transferring his addiction from alcohol to gambling. I’m hoping he decides to get therapy soon and having hopes that yours does too. In the meantime, be strong and protect yourself and your daughter. It seems like the tempers are increasing in your household and if you have to, get yourself and your daughter into a better place where both of you aren’t exposed to it. It’s not good for either of you and I send many good wishes and big hugs your way!

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