21 May 2016 at 2:15 pm #9907theone12221Participant
Could really relate when you said that wanting to stop and actually stopping are vastly different and it takes a lot of willpower and discipline to transition from the first stage to the second (actually stopping). It can be a long and bumpy road but every one of us on here will need to make that transition in order to truly recover and be gamble-free for life. I think filling your gambling thoughts with other desires/hobbies is a great way to prevent triggers from occurring. Keep up the good work!21 May 2016 at 4:29 pm #9908
Hi. Change is usually good but it is a process. I feel like I am always changing and hopefully learning new life lessons. Isn’t that why we are here? I gambled recently but I think I needed to experience the feelings of the aftermath to confirm in my head that I don’t want to go down that path again. The monetary loss wasn’t much but my soul felt defeated. Don’t want to feel that way again. I am happy that you are filling your head with desires. Life can be complicated but sometimes I think we make it that way. Have a great weekend. Take care.10 December 2016 at 3:23 pm #9909
It took a while, but I found my thread. I wanted to say hello to you who might remember me.
I have always had a hard time knowing what to say on my threads. Expressing myself. I’ll start with the easy thing, and let you know what I have been up to. Not much actually. I still love my job, and I still escort an 88 year old woman twice a week. We go to the Senior Center for lunch, and then we play Bingo. Yes, I have finally said it. I play Bingo twice a week. I can’t believe I have been with her for 3 years now. We have done many other things together in the past, but for about the last year, this is what we do most days. Here I go. Typing, erasing. Typing, erasing. Hearing voices of responses. Perhaps, I shouldn’t have even mentioned it here on gambling therapy. But I feel like it is a part of me that I have had to keep from all of you. Even though, in my general life, it is nothing I feel guilty about. Not even one bit. It is not a trigger for me at all. Believe me, I have tried to find other activities we could do together that she was physically and mentally able to do. If there comes a time when she can no longer play Bingo, I will quit and not miss it. I will miss the people who play though. Which is why I have decided that when my friend and I no longer get together, I will volunteer at the Senior Center because I just love the people who gather there.
Anyway, all in all, things are going well for me and my family. The best bonus of not being caught up in gambling is being able to fully enjoy my relationship with my husband. It just keeps getting better! My kids are doing well. My daughter went through a rough patch, but now is doing better than ever and living in New York City with a great job she loves in a beautiful new building right next to the World Trade Center. I worry about her for many reasons, but she is happy, and that trumps all my worries. And…my daughter-in-law is going to have a baby in April!
So, that’s about it. Happy Holidays, everyone! I will post more often, if I can. Take care. Keep working your recovery!10 December 2016 at 4:48 pm #9910veraParticipant
Great to read a post from you Ican, and thanks for posting to my thread.
Bingo, for me would have absolutely nothing to do with gambling, but of course I do understand and acknowledge it could be the ruination of many.
Every CG has his/her own poison.
Great that your “client” is able to partake in what is obviously an innocent, yet important social event. It keeps many elderly people alert and gives them an outing to look forward to.
I’m in a bit of a rush now . Just home from a pre Christmas event and am heading to a family dinner now.
Keep in touch.
Clickity click!!10 December 2016 at 10:01 pm #9911
Hi Ican, It is good to hear that you and your family are doing well! I have played bingo in the past but it wasn’t addictive for me. Congrats on the baby in April. My youngest Daughter is due April the 2nd with a little girl. I will be a Grandmother again. There is nothing sweeter. Happy Holidays to you and your family! Take care.19 December 2016 at 3:46 pm #9912
Hi Ican thanks for the post on project 60 🙂 i’m glad you liked reading through my thread. Micky 🙂10 January 2017 at 8:12 pm #9913
Mourning yet another friend who passed away Sunday. Cancer. I stayed home from work yesterday and stayed in bed all day crying and drinking cosmopolitans. Feeling a bit better today. Except for the headache. lol Took another day off, today, but I got out of bed and no drinking. Yesterday, was supposed to be my Day 1 of starting exercising, eating better, drinking less. Didn’t work out as I planned. instead I spent the day putting poison into my body without hardly moving at all. I am not going to beat myself up, as this is a very sad and difficult time for me. People have been posting pictures of my friend on facebook, and I am in many of them. Tomorrow I will go back to work and function the best I can.
The last time I gambled was the middle of September. Also, in August. It was horrible how much damage I did during that time. Went right back into it. It scared me how quickly I accumulated a large gambling debt. I have been working to pay it back.
Putting one foot in front of the other is about all I can manage today.11 January 2017 at 5:06 pm #9914
Hi ICAN, I am sorry about your friend. Cancer sucks! Take care of yourself. Grieving is one of the hardest things that I have ever gone through. Be kind to yourself. Take care.12 January 2017 at 2:02 am #9915veraParticipant
Condolences on the loss of your friend, Ican.
Grief is painful. There is no way to avoid it.12 January 2017 at 8:53 pm #9916Jonny123987Participant
Sorry to hear about your friend! That’s a bummer. Try to love yourself and respect that friends memory by doing something good and positive for yourself. Show respect to them by giving yourself 5 minutes a day of just good thoughts and positive energy.
Jon12 January 2017 at 10:49 pm #9917
Thanks, Lizbeth, Vera and Jon. The service was today and it was sad, but it was beautiful. The Priest said that if my friend wasn’t in Heaven, than there was no hope for the rest of us. That says a lot about the person she was. He also said to pick the one virtue, quality or character about her that you admired the most and begin bringing that into your own life…working on yourself in her honor. I loved that, and I am going to do just that. But, the truth is, I could have been a better friend…I should have been a better friend.17 January 2017 at 6:02 am #9918Jonny123987Participant
How are you doing?28 January 2017 at 3:03 pm #9919maverick.Participant
Icandothis, just wanted to drop in and wish you well, really sorry to hear of your loss of your friend, you mention you could have been a better friend but in truth Ican everyone of us could have been a better person at some point in our lives towards friends & family and in turn we could also have been a lot worse, you were a friend and that is more than good enough, remember the good things and not the bad, I love the Priest quote about working on yourself in her honour that makes perfect sense to me.
Take care my friend and hope this finds you well, keep fighting, keep trying and never give in.
Maverick31 January 2017 at 2:21 pm #9920
Hi icandothis hope your okay and doing well in recovery sorry to hear about your friend. loved what the priest said very uplifting 🙂2 February 2017 at 6:53 pm #9921
Hi Icandothis thanks for your post , if we sit down and write all the things down we can do instead of gambling the list is endless i sometimes force myself to do stuff ( give myself a push) but it’s always worth it looking back on a productive day .
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