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  • #11984
    icandothis
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    Hi Sherry, I was looking for you and noticed that your topic had been closed.  I hope you are doing ok.  Your encouragement has meant alot to me.  Also, Happy Belated Birthday!!!

    #11985
    sherry123
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    Carole, thanks for sharing your exerience.  My son (34 years old) is just about the same age as your son.  Yes, he could have bought the belt himself and should have.  He’s went back to college and is trying to improve his life so I’m trying to help him so he doesn’t have an excuse to drop out.  He has almost a year of schooling left and ***** have a trade with a potential of making great money.  I talked to him on the phone Saturday to see if he got the belt and he said ‘no, I’m with Jen (his on again off again girlfriend) and we’re going to the hockey game.’  He’s living with my daughter’s family so she’s basically giving him a free place to live and I’m helping him out with gas and other things.  He has a job where most of his hours are on the weekend but he didn’t go because he wanted to spend time with Jen.  I told him when he gets his school loan to send me $900 of it and I’ll portion it out to him at $75 a week so ***** have gas and spending money because I can’t keep supporting him while he’s spending money on other activities. He always has to have a girlfriend and they are usually high maintenance, very nice looking and some***** crazy.  This one has a hold on him unlike any other girl he’s been with (even his ex-wife) and my daughter is upset too because he was doing so good until she came back into the picture.  I’m worried ***** drop out of school because he can’t afford it and her too.  Guess I’ll just pray about it.  I want him to be happy but he has not been happy in this relationship over the past two years they’ve been off and on. They’ve even tried counselling before the last break-up and it didn’t work.  I wish he would just concentrate on school and his daughters for the next year and then see if he wants a relationship with her.
    I know the only thing I can do is just work on me and my life.  I’m starting the new year without gambling after gambling only a few ***** last year. Last year was a pretty good year and I expect this one to be just as good or better.  We had our first baby calf yesterday.  A live healthy calf to start the new year is a good sign.  We’ll be in our new house sometime this Spring. Hopefully, we’ll sell this little house we’re living in quickly.  My husband and I both have decent jobs with benefits.  We’ll have all we could possibly hope for in the coming year. The only thing that could ruin the year is gambling but I’ve gotten the taste of having money, the feeling of not being riddled with guilt and shame after gambling and the joy of reaching financial goals that were unattainable years ago.  I like this new life and want it for another year…gambling can kiss my @$$ goodbye.
     

    #11986
    maverick.
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    Hi Sherry, just wanted to drop in on your thread and wish you well, hope you are keeping well, I liked your last post a lot and keep in that mind set, I really hope that 2013 is a great year for you and I am sure it will be, stay strong as this addiction is very cunning and will always catch us out when we are not on our guard, you are doing great and I look forward to hearing your progress and hope to share with you very soon, the only thing that saddens me is that I am 2 years older than your son, take care and wish you all the very best in the world love Maverick.

    #11987
    sherry123
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    Thanks or your post Maverick.  You’re also a young man with lots of potential.  As a mother, I just want the best for my son…and you too. You’re both trying to improve your life and I need to step back and let my son find his own way and I know he will.
    We have another calf so now it’s one male and one female.  The builder will start framing our house this week.  So many choices though.  I have to pick out the roofing color.  Guess I’ll drive around town and look at roofs.  I haven’t thought about roof color or even our house color yet.  My husband doesn’t care.  He said ‘whatever you want’. 
    I have an extra $200 coming the end of the month. The thought entered my mind that extra money used to go to the casino.  When I knew it was coming, I’d lose it at the casino way before I even had it.  Then I’d rationalise that it was ‘extra money’ anyway and then I’d try to win it back.  By the time the $200 finally got here, my past self would have lost it many ***** over.  The thought of extra money used to be another trigger.  All I can do is to not let that thought grow the rest of today. 

    #11988
    desdemona
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    I had to laugh (((Sherry))) because that was me spending "extra" money before I even got it, over and over again. I’m getting an extra $400 mid month and in the past that would have gone to gambling. Extra money has always been a trigger for me, and has ALWAYS been used to gamble. Not this $400! Once it hits our joint account, I’m depositing it to my own account, and it will be sit there, as my "get out of jail free" fund. Every woman shold have a nest egg. We can’t alwys predict what the future will hold. I am not tempted to gamble my own money, only my husband’s money. How nice to have two baby calves and that they are healthy. And you’ve got that heater now so they will be warm and toasty. How exciting that the house will start being framed soon. My roof is brown and my house is completely white. What color are you doing yours? Carole

    #11989
    desdemona
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    I had to laugh (((Sherry))) because that was me spending "extra" money before I even got it, over and over again. I’m getting an extra $400 mid month and in the past that would have gone to gambling. Extra money has always been a trigger for me, and has ALWAYS been used to gamble. Not this $400! Once it hits our joint account, I’m depositing it to my own account, and it will be sit there, as my "get out of jail free" fund. Every woman shold have a nest egg. We can’t alwys predict what the future will hold. I am not tempted to gamble my own money, only my husband’s money. How nice to have two baby calves and that they are healthy. And you’ve got that heater now so they will be warm and toasty. How exciting that the house will start being framed soon. My roof is brown and my house is completely white. What color are you doing yours? Carole

    #11990
    sherry123
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    Carole, I have a nest egg to but I’ll be using a lot of it for new furniture and appliances. I drove around but it’s hard to see house roofs with all the snow.  I’ve decided to go with the blackish because it looks like a lot of nicer houses have it.  I’m not sure what color to paint the house but I’m leaning towards a deep forest green and white or else a neutral slate blue and white.  Too many choices!
    Today is one of those days that I’m worried I’m posting too much personal stuff that someone might recognize me.  If it’s someone that wants help, I wouldn’t care (and would welcome them contacting me) but if it’s someone that’s judgmental and gossipy (from work) then I’ll feel violated.  I wonder if I should start a new name or just stop putting personal identifying stuff on here.
    Another new baby calf this morning.  We’re at two girls and one boy so far.  I think there will be about 40 babies this year. 
    Hope everyone enjoyed their weekend. A boring gamble free weekend is good enough for me.
     

    #11991
    Anonymous
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    Thanks for your post, Sherry. I’ve been keeping an eye on you guys from time to time. Sounds like you’re doing pretty well. So much excitement happening with your new house … so much hope for the future, it’s good to read. I know what you mean about being recognized on this forum. Sometimes I worry that people will identify me too. It doesn’t hurt to be a little cautious. Will pop by again soon. RG

    #11992
    sherry123
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    I was watching Fox news and a Kennedy kid (can’t remember which one) who was afflicted with alcoholism wrote a book (of course I can’t even remember the name of the book either) and was asked how was he finally able to stop and he said by being part of a community of people that also wanted to stop and stay stopped.  We are that community here. Together we can stop and stay stopped.

    #11993
    sherry123
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    I was watching Fox news and a Kennedy kid (can’t remember which one) who was afflicted with alcoholism wrote a book (of course I can’t even remember the name of the book either) and was asked how was he finally able to stop and he said by being part of a community of people that also wanted to stop and stay stopped.  We are that community here. Together we can stop and stay stopped. We are the key.

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