[n1ck]

I’ve been struggling with gambling for the past 2 years, and I’ve lost maybe 10-15k worth. I’m in my mid 20s now and my family knows about my problem but I haven’t told my girlfriend of 4 years and have been hiding it from her. I’m afraid she’ll never look at me the same but I feel like if I tell her a lot of the anxieties I feel associated to finances and gambling might be alleviated. I’ve gone through clean spurts but I haven’t been clean for longer than a month in over a year. Appreciate anyone’s thoughts.

[Losingitslowly]

Hi n1ck, and welcome. How about you use this as a way to stop? You have to stop or you have to tell her. Try as hard as you can to make yourself stick to it and see what happens. The next time you gamble you have to tell her, plain and simple. I’m not of the mindset that telling people is always the best because if it causes her to change or leave, the situation would put you in a spiral that would keep you gambling for a while. Try to stop. Its what’s best all ways around and it would provide the motivation you need.

[charles]

Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums. By posting to the forums you’re allowing the diverse and caring Gambling Therapy community to help support you through the difficulties you’re facing.

This may well be a tough time for you – particularly if you’re new to recovery, so we encourage you to post here as often as you need to, as well as making use of the online groups and the live advice helpline if you’d like some one-to-one support. We’re all in this together! If you’re a new member, you are warmly invited to join Charles in one of the New Members Practical Advice groups (Mondays at 21:00 UK Time and Thursdays at 19:00 UK Time).

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