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30 September 2019 at 11:38 am #52879mutleyParticipant
Hi, Mutely here.
I first joined this site in 2005 and I thought my gambling was bad then. I have battled so hard over the years to stop gambling with some degree of success but I’m here again so that would tell you I haven’t actually stopped for good
which is very depressing. I’m so fed up with being controlled by gambling, it has totally ruined my life!I’m 50 now and I started gambling when I was 8 years old. I did stop for 7 years once but all the good and progress I made then has been totally wiped off the face of the Earth so I have come to the conclusion if you can’t stop for good there isn’t much point as it will take it off you in the future if you do, do well for a while. I don’t know what to do, the only thing I know is if I don’t go to work I don’t earn any money therefore I can’t spent it, which at this point in time is the only thing that seems to work.Never give up trying to give up!
Mutley
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30 September 2019 at 7:02 pm #52880SteevParticipant
I think that even if you are not working you can still gamble either with borrowed money or benefits. It feels like a tough way to tackle the problem – but I guess if it works for you.
Seven years is a fantastic amount of time to be gf and I wonder what went wrong and if you can put back in place what you did then? Perhaps you would like to write a bit more … ?
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1 October 2019 at 1:17 pm #52881duncParticipant
Glad you’ve come back Mutley thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums
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Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.
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Take care
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1 October 2019 at 1:19 pm #52882duncParticipant
Hi Mutley
I agree with Steev. Stopping working just means you wil use money that isnt yours.
If youve not managed to stop maybe its time to reassess your plan for recovery
What have you tried in the last 10 years to help yourself?
Take Care
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2 October 2019 at 2:41 am #52883TFParticipant
Hi Mutley
Reading your story reminded me so much about myself, I tell myself I’ve given up, then within a few weeks thinking I can control it, I’m lying, cheating and even “extended borrowing” from my own family. Hoodwinked my wife and daughter for about three years until I went through a spell so bad, I was gambling throughout the night. After I got busted, it was such a relief, I was able to switch the addiction off near like a tap, at least once I had some intense prayer too; Stay cool, you can do it kind regards
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23 November 2020 at 6:44 am #70922mutleyParticipant
Hi all. I guess stopping working was a bit extreme but if it breaks the cycle? I was so much in debt I couldn’t borrow off any banks or credit card companies any more. I couldn’t even get a payday loan in the end, and family would no longer lend me money which really got under my skin at first but in the end, I realised they were acting as feeders if that’s the right word. So my dad put his foot down and said I’m not lending you any more money and you’re on your own now so if you mess up you’ll have to sort it out yourself and I did already owe him a lot of money. So if I didn’t work, no money, no gambling and it did work. It’s much the same now during Covid although I am back at work now and have a couple of quid in my pocket I can’t gamble because everywhere is closed and I can’t go online as blocked everything using Gamblock, it’s brilliant!! I haven’t gambled now for a good while, perhaps 6 weeks or more I haven’t counted this time and this are looking up I have paid a small amount of debt back and working away quite happily. The true test is coming up though when things open up again…. will I get tempted? Yes, of course, I will I’ve been described by a mental health nurse as a pathological gambler, which I guess means I’m addicted to gambling so it’s going to be tough out there once things get back to the new normal but I think I’ve gained a bit of strength over the last few months so maybe, now I’ll be able to stay gamble free forever. Regards, Mutley.
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