Tagged: TEEN GAMBELING
9 June 2023 at 5:56 pm #177511debbie88888888Participant
Hi there, my 15 going 16 year old son starting gambling through a school acquaintance. They gave him an online website and login. He lost almost $10,000 CAD (about 4,000 pounds) over a few weeks. Opened other accounts with other people to hopefully win it back. It all went sour and he got caught up and went too far. He’ll be working this summer to repay us (parents) for bailing him out. He’s trying to find other ways to make legitimate money. He’s speaking with a mental health worker about this. He will have none to minimal limit to social time with friends this summer and phone monitored. His good friends told him to stop but he didn’t listen. We’re going to keep him close this summer and do family things, to keep him engaged when he’s not working. Is there hope? Can this be an isolated incident? Is there anything else I should be doing or planning. HELP?
9 June 2023 at 6:11 pm #177516
I wish there was an easy, quick answer to your question but there is no crystal ball available to tell me is this is a one-off incident.
Personally, I think it is wise to think that this could be the start of something -but hopefully with knowledge it can be nipped in the bud.
Your son is at an age when many young people gamble for fun without realising that addiction can be waiting for them and along with addiction can be a life-time of failure and misery. You, however, have chosen to seek help early for him and he is a lucky young man that you are ready to support.
Debbie, I was just going out for the evening when I noticed your post, so I hope you will excuse this short reply.
I will write more fully tomorrow – but I wanted you to know I was listening. in the meaning your plan to keep him occupied and his friends in the loop sounds great.
9 June 2023 at 7:40 pm #177514
Thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy friends and family forum. This forum will provide you with warmth and understanding from your peers.
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11 June 2023 at 6:54 pm #177581
If your son has a serious gambling problem, then his answer will probably be to gamble again to chase his debts.
It is important to keep his ‘good friends’ on side, he will need them. Maybe you could tell them that your son could use their calm approach. I personally feel that the more people who are willing to support the better. It is important though that they know not to give him any money because this will only feed his problem and they will probably never get their money back.
It is also important to know that your son does not want to have a problem with gambling, he neither asked for it nor wanted it, he is not to be blamed – any more than you.
He is in debt for a lot of money and being young, this will hurt. Maybe you could direct him towards our Gamblers group, facilitated by Charles, who will put him straight about what could happen to him if he continues gambling. I believe there is nothing like hearing from someone with experience.
I facilitate a group on Tuesdays and Thursdays 19.00-20.00 hours, (7-9pm) for the families of gamblers and I would be really pleased if you could join me. It is one to one, completely safe and private, it is really good to have a no-holds-barred conversation.
Your son is young enough to learn to control his problem before it takes a complete hold of him and gets harder and harder to control.
12 June 2023 at 10:32 am #177585debbie88888888Participant
Thank you for your support and I agree with all your references and suggestions. He will be surrounded by his good friends and everyone is very supportive of keeping him close and not to give him any money.
I am interested in the sessions you offer Tuesday’s and Thursdays. Please let me know your time zone as we are in Canada. Is it by zoom, with a group of other people. Please do provide additional details on the format.
Thanks again for your additional feedback.
12 June 2023 at 5:25 pm #177626
The Friends and Family group is between 1900 ours and 2000 UK time.
Only F&F members can come into a group and there is often only 2 or 3 of us present, completely safe and private. Nothing said in the group appears on the forum which means we can really open up.
Well done on all you are doing.
16 September 2023 at 4:51 pm #181537iamroseParticipant
Continue providing emotional support for your son. Let him know that you care about his well-being and that you’re there to help him overcome this challenge.
It’s great that he’s planning to work and repay the money lost. This can teach him important financial lessons about responsible money management.
Ensure that your son understands the risks and dangers associated with gambling, including the potential for addiction. Education is a key component of prevention.
Encourage him to pursue other interests and hobbies to fill his time and reduce the temptation to gamble. Family activities and outings are a great way to bond and create positive experiences.
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