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7 November 2014 at 10:01 am #27319skevoulaParticipant
Forgive me for my poor English but its not my native language. before I start even though im new to this I would like to thank whoever thought about this concept of help, and when I m done from gambling I will try to do something similar for Cyprus too, many people are refusing to go get treatment because they are embraced including myself, not here though.
Yesterday I didn’t go to work. I couldn’t, and I promised myself that this was the last time I changed my plans because of online gambling. my story goes back to 2005 when I started with little money… until 2 years ago when things got out of control. I used to help people with money and now I m in dept, not for long though because now is different, now I promised to my 7 month girl that enough is enough on the 5th after I lost ll my money I had in my account I went home.. she was so happy to see me but I was devastated and I couldn’t play with her.
Yesterday I managed to get money into my wallet and keep them there, I wish I can do that during the weekend since every Friday I get some money from work which don’t last a lot. one day at a time I guess.
I don’t know why im doing it since im lucky enough to have a very good job and get enough money, last year the reason was to get the money I lost back I guess. Yesterday after an incited with my husband I remembered (After a long time) that sometimes when I say something to him without having a conversation or at least say what he wants he gets angry. I hate that.
I need to fight the voice that inside me that is asking me to gamble every time I have money. last time… that’s always what it says… well I hope it wont be another last time.
this is for now… even though I have a lot more to say…thanks for reading it!
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7 November 2014 at 10:03 am #27320skevoulaParticipant
forgot to tell you that none of my family members know how bad gambling went for me. they thing I have stoped. the reason why im not telling my husband is because im afraid of how he will react.
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7 November 2014 at 10:29 am #27321DuncKeymaster
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Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums
Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties youre currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if youre new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. Were in this together!
Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like youre not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.
And on that note….
Im going to hand you over to our community because Im sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂
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7 November 2014 at 11:04 am #27322mickyParticipant
Hi Skevoula and welcome to our family of compulsive gamblers , we are all in the same boat as you one way or another. Well done on promising your baby daughter you will not gamble again it’s a great reason not to and something you can think about when you get the urge to gamble when you have money. Micky.
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7 November 2014 at 11:27 am #27323janey1Participant
I’m glad to see you posting Skevoula.
Have a think about strengthening your support network by finding at least one person (friend or family member) to talk to face to face…to be your “phone buddy” when you’re in a vulnerable position. Then think about possibly seeking counselling, going to Gamblers Anonymous and working on building up your emotional strength and developing new coping strategies.
You can do this Skevoula…and I’m looking forward to seeing the changes you make!
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7 November 2014 at 12:12 pm #27324skevoulaParticipant
thanks Micky!
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7 November 2014 at 12:13 pm #27325skevoulaParticipant
I will do it…
baby steps at the beginning but I will do it.
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7 November 2014 at 1:49 pm #27326veraParticipant
Welcome to GT Skevoula!
It was good to see you in the chat yesterday . Well done on opening your own thread.
Gambling is a progressive disease which steals , not only our money but also our precious time.
Do not allow it to take another moment from you . You deserve to have a better life , especially with a young baby on your lap!
My advice to you is to hand over the management of your money to your husband immediately before another disaster strikes!
CGs CANNOT handle money in the early stages of recovery.
‘SEE YOU IN THE CHAT GROUPS LATER! -
7 November 2014 at 2:45 pm #27327skevoulaParticipant
Thanks !!! I was the one taking care of the money since day one… he will b very suprised if i do that!!! I will c what happens
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7 November 2014 at 3:06 pm #27328veraParticipant
He will be even more surprised, Skevoula when he finds there is NO money!
So will you!!
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7 November 2014 at 7:44 pm #27329charlesModerator
Hi Skevlouva, good to meet you yesterday and god to see your first post. I see you are already getting some great advice and support. keep posting and hopefully I will see you in a group again soon.
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8 November 2014 at 10:39 am #27330skevoulaParticipant
Day 2 (yesterday) clean and clear! And tge best part is that i have money to use but i wont… so far every time i said i would stop and never play again was wheb i had no money and then when i was getting some even 20euros i would deposit then to get the money i lost !
Day 3 today but even though i feel great for not playing im sad… like im giving up on a friend…. -
8 November 2014 at 1:46 pm #27331veraParticipant
Giving up on an abusive friend Skevoula!
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8 November 2014 at 8:16 pm #27332pParticipant
Keep going, keep those days adding up one by one.. dont worry about tomorrow or yesterday, just get through one day at a time, just this day.. just for today i wont gamble, or the next hour, break it down if you have to and if you get the urge to gamble try to delay it.. just wait it out, wait an hour, get busy, start really getting into something else, cleaning, cooking, eating, walking, visit a friend or phone, read a book.. watch a movie, whatever it is to distract you from that urge and eventually it passes and the relief comes that you didnt go and self destruct again.. keep going.. a day at a time
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