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13 April 2015 at 3:31 pm #29917Tony8Participant
Hi All This I guess is a cry for help, I’ve been a compulsive gambler for 32 years and I’m at my wits end, I’ve managed to stop/control for brief spells but always end back in this awful cycle which I know robs me of true freedom and happiness… I have a young son of 2 that is my world and know he deserves so much more than a Dad who throws money away, time for me to finally and completely stop this cycle. Any advice on ridding this from our lives would be much appreciated. Many thanks Tony
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13 April 2015 at 3:54 pm #29918DuncKeymaster
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Hello Tony and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums
Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties youre currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if youre new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. Were in this together!
Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like youre not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.
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15 April 2015 at 5:32 pm #29919I_MaverickParticipant
Hi Tony
I am only 13 days into my latest batch of abstinance and I am in a personal hell of my own making at the moment. What is working for me is wife has access to all funds (cards, PayPal, online banking etc) and I have netnanny on my computers to block all access to gambling sites. I have never been a bookies or casino person.
I also attend GA 4 times a week. That helps a lot, there are great people there who understand. My issues at the moment are the terrible state of my own business which I have to close, as all the time I should have been looking for new clients I was gambling and now we have no work on. My wife is also leaving me after 3 years of being a CG and we have a small son a bit younger than yours.
Put blockers in place, don’t handle cash, self exclude from as many places as you can and go to GA. Say tro your self every morning “Just for today I will not gamble”. Say it “just for this hour” or “just for this 10 mins” whatever you need.
I had a lasp 13 days ago and before that I managed 18 days, so in the last 31 days I have gambled 1.5 hours but I lost a chunk of change in that time. I simply cannot bear to gamble anymore – it breaks my head, breaks my spirit and sucks me dry. I have so little self esteem and self worth left – I need to replenish them all.
Keep posting, join the groups when they are on, go to GA.
I am sure others will have words to say – be strong and think of your little one. I wish I had done that more.
All my love
Mav
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