2 July 2013 at 11:26 pm #9468jay_9Participant
Don’t know where to start really. I’ve tried so much to stop this terrible, life destroying problem! From GA meetings to private counselling to hypnotherapy.. the works! I’m not a bad person, I have an amazing family who I truly adore and i’m blessed to have found my soul mate.
Now for the really bad bit.. No matter how good my salary, I always find an excuse to blow my money on gambling! I have been doing it for a good 7-8 years now and it just shows no signs of getting any better. I just came on this website tonight on the off chance that I cant sleep due to financial worries (which is not unusual for me) as I tend to get myself in to some very bad situations.
I don’t exactly know what i’m looking to hear but at the minute anything would be appreciated.
I Dont have a favourite saying, sorry ppz!2 July 2013 at 11:51 pm #9469AnonymousGuest
Hi Jay: I’m sorry that you’re having a sleepless night due to rotten gambling. It sounds like you already know what ***** to be done, it’s just getting down to doing it. As you know, there is no magic to it, it’s about stopping, changing our lives and staying stopped.
Here is what helps most people.
1. Ban yourself from all land-based casinos.
2. Put Betfilter or Gamblock on your computers if you’re gambling online.
3. Severely limit the amount of money you carry with you. Seriously — only carry enough for a cup of coffee or tea.
4. Ask someone close to you to take over the finances. This is a tough one — I’m a control freak, so this one nearly killed me.
5. Think of ways to start changing or improving your life. You’re gambling to fill a void/need in your life. Take time to figure out what it is and start filling your life with happy, family things.
6. Plan each pay day carefully. Put your money on bills, into untouchable savings ac*****s, etc. Make plans to do something else on payday. Take your partner to dinner, go to a movie, go to the gym …none of these may feel particularly wonderful at the time, but its a start in a different direction.
7. Give your partner online access to your ac***** so that they may check your ac*****s regularly. You need the ac*****ability.
I know I’m not telling you anything you don’t know — but consider putting a couple of these into action, starting immediately and you’ll be on your way.
I hope this helps in some small way. You deserve a good and happy life and so does your family.
All the best. RG"I ***** him braver who overcomes his desires than him who conquers his enemies; for the hardest victory is over self. Aristotle3 July 2013 at 8:11 am #9470DuncKeymaster
Thank you for posting on the Gambling Therapy forum. As you are a GB resident you are entitled to free online support through the Gamcare website at http://www.gamcare.org.uk/ .
You could also consider residential treatment which you can find out more about by following the below link:
As Gambling Therapy are unable to support people from Great Britain can I suggest that you now copy and paste your post into one of the Gamcare forums where you will receive responses from others in a similar situation to you from all over Great Britain.
You can also access online or face to face group support through Gamblers Anonymous:
We wish you well in your recovery.
The Gambling Therapy Team
25 year poker player, 25 year Hierarchal fool, 25 year ego boost… Intellectualisation was my down fall, simplicity was my salvation
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