Tagged: Day 1
1 November 2021 at 8:08 pm #142098asfunurseParticipant
Is there such a think as rock bottom. Just when I think I’ve hit it, I hit yet another lower, low. Tired of carrying around all this guilt and shame. 1st Day on this site. Life needs to change. I’m working very hard at destroying myself and my family. Tired of feeling numb and not having the strength to take a serious look at myself and figure out, why the hell I am doing this…
1 November 2021 at 8:08 pm #142156charlesModerator
Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums. By posting to the forums you’re allowing the diverse and caring Gambling Therapy community to help support you through the difficulties you’re facing.
This may well be a tough time for you – particularly if you’re new to recovery, so we encourage you to post here as often as you need to, as well as making use of the online groups and the live advice helpline if you’d like some one-to-one support. We’re all in this together! If you’re a new member, you are warmly invited to join Charles in one of the New Members Practical Advice groups (Mondays at 21:00 UK Time and Thursdays at 19:00 UK Time).
The forum is a great place to share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. By writing it all down you can start to build a record of your progress that you can look back on – particularly useful if you’re ever feeling stuck. Share as much or as little as you like – but you’re encouraged to stick to keeping to just one thread in this forum – so people know where to find you to check in on your progress or to share something with you.
The Gambling Therapy staff team don’t generally post to the forums as it is a peer support area of the site – so we’ll hand you over to the community from here.
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1 November 2021 at 8:34 pm #142163charlesModerator
Hi Asufnurse, Good question. Rock Bottom is often mentioned here and at other recovery sites/places. What is it? Well I would say that there is no definitive place; we all have our own “Rock Bottom” For some it may be problems with the law, with work, with family/partners – either ultimatums or separation etc For others it might be somethign less traumatic and they finally get tired of digging holes and climbing out of them just to dig another.
I would say though that this is a progressive problem. As you have found, whatever we think may be a rock bottom, there is always another layer of s**t underneath if we carry on gambling.
I would say for now forget about “Why am I dong this?” In terms of stopping gambling that has little importance. What needs to be focused is the fact of the addiction and the actions you can take.
Read the other stories here – you will read a lot that you will relate to. You will also see the success stories – what are they doing that you can apply to your own situation?
It sounds like you family are aware of the issue. Great, i am sure they will be delighted to help you with some of the barriers you will see have helped others – if you gamble online there are blockers you can get for your devices, family could help set passowrds. We all know that no money = no gambling. We usually find that out when we lose it!! Now use that in recovery, put some accountability in place so that yiuy can’t access funds wth which to gamble. Family could help with that as well.
Barriers help but of course they aren’t the total answer to addiction. They givebreathign space though so that you can start using support. get to the groups here, maybe check out the helpline, you have a lot of support available. Elsewhere too – places like gamblers Anonymous, Counselling and more.
Keep postinhg and let us know the positive actions you are taking to make your next bet less likely.
Again, make YOUR rockbottom NOW.
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