26 November 2021 at 9:34 am #143754kamkamParticipant
Hello. I started gambling around 8 years ago. Im 28 now. I started with sports betting and i had everything under ‘control’ 25 pound a month was my max. I won some money, i lost some money. 2 years ago i started to increasing my stakes and i was spending 200 pound a month or more and then i started recieving bonuses from gambling sites. I recieved 2 pound bonus for a online casino which i never played before. And I won in roulette with 1 pound bet on a single number. What a luck i thought. Since that day i registered on multiple sites and i was Playing roulette. I won 7 thousand in 3 days and a week later i lost it all. In next few months i deposit around 6 thousand and loat it all. I recieved phone calls from betting sites, emails Regarding large amounts of deposits and ignored them. Lost around 10K and my turnover (dposits,winnings which i withdrawaled and then 30 minutes later i deposit again) was around 32k. Lost it all. Lost deposit for our house. I had to tell my wife about it. I was crying, and couldnt believe how its happened?? I went to psychologist and i stopped thinking about online gambling. However i started buying scratchcards avery time i was filling my car. (2 x a week) and last month start playing roulette again. Lost 2k. Yesterday my wife caught me while i was placing sports bet. I think shes gonna leave me now, cause she cant trust me. I fell like i cant trust myself. Dont know what to do, i feel that even i stop for a bit i will come back to it. I destroying my life and hurting a person i Love. I was reading about GA groups and meetings in my city, however i dont think its for me due to the fact that im not british and english is not my native language. Im scared. Im lost. Im confused. Could you tell me what helped you? I just dont know what to do
26 November 2021 at 9:34 am #143802DuncKeymaster
Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums
Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!
Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.
As well as the forums New Members are invited to join Charles in the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK)
And on that note….
I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂
The Gambling Therapy Team
2 December 2021 at 8:16 am #144267G RecParticipant
Welcome to the forum and well done on taking a positive step admitting your problem, and looking for help.
You asked “Could you tell me what helped you?” 2 items that I found particularly useful when I first started trying to stop gambling was 1) Putting as many barriers in place as possible to make it difficult to gamble and 2) having someone else I trust manage finances for a while, In this scenario, you still maintain control over your money, and decide where it is spent, but any spending would have to go through this person first.
I also strongly recommended the new members groups Charles mentioned held on a Monday and Thursday, here you can speak with Charles who can provide further advice and recommendations.
Finally, I would say that when starting out not gambling, I found it helped to set some specific objectives/actions with a defined timeframe. For example, By this time next week I plan to 1) Write 3 Journal entries 2) Attend the new member’s group 3) Discuss with someone else having them help manage my finances, 4 Install GamBan on my phone and Laptop and 5) close all betting accounts permanently.
I hope this is helpful, I look forward to reading further updates.
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