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  • in reply to: Day 300, c,one bow to a year #45574
    finding_laura
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    Hi Monica,

    Good to read you are doing well. I hope you enjoy your trip. You deserve the relaxation and rest. Take care of yourself!

    Laura

    in reply to: Thoughts on recovery #52613
    finding_laura
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    It’s really great to read how well you are doing. Goes to show we should never quit quitting. We aren’t all from the same mold and not everything works for everyone. You managed to find what will work for you. Good news.

    Self care is of utmost importance. We often haven’t nurtured ourselves while in the throes of a gambling addiction. It’s wonderful that you are recognizing the things you should do for yourself. Keep it up! You are amazing.

    Laura

    in reply to: I was here #36726
    finding_laura
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    Trigger is finances! Always seems to be the one for me. I have a friend coming to spend a week and we are doing a bit of site seeing together. Rooms and food. Nothing major but always figure I can win enough for that. I did. But…. we all know the end to this story. I went back again and lost my “winnings”. For me there will never be and never is winnings, only losses. Personal and financial. Off to chat! Laura

    in reply to: I was here #36723
    finding_laura
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    checking in! Work has been extremely stressful with lots of changes going on. Wish I could say I haven’t gambled. I have. A couple times 🙁 No financial damage but I always feel awful. Hoping to catch a group tomorrow. 2pm London time. I’m setting a reminder! Hope my GT friends are doing better than me! talk later!

    in reply to: Today’s learning #50923
    finding_laura
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    enjoying reading your thread! Love the tips and way of thinking you are sharing. When we are shown an alternative way of thinking it offers more possibilities.

    xo Laura

    in reply to: Today’s learning #50922
    finding_laura
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    awesome response and reasoning!!

    in reply to: Day 300, c,one bow to a year #45434
    finding_laura
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    Hi Monica, I get tired of saying sorry I haven’t been around but will still say it as it’s true. I’m not gambling. Don’t have the time or the physical stamina right now. Busy busy or laid out flat. Doesn’t seem to be much in between.

    I have been traveling a little as well so that takes a toll. Sorry to hear about your trip to the DR. Yes Canadians go to the DR because for us it is cheap and convenient. Sometimes an all inclusive for less than 4 or 5 hundred pounds. I’ve never been, but that is from listening to friends who travel there. But now you know you don’t want to retire there! Scratch that off the bucket list. You don’t have to think about that greener pasture anymore lol

    It’s hard to watch our children get themselves into tight places. If there is any consolation it is that they are going through these experiences early and they have you setting the example of how you get out of them. With honesty, therapy and hard work. You are breaking the cycle and showing them how to do the same. You are teaching them to think outside the routine and the habits of life that we often get ourselves into. You are teaching them that you can be the navigator of your own life circumstance.

    I am also thrilled to hear of all the other ways you are doing things for yourself. Now making your place a comfortable oasis seems to be as much if not more for you son and his girlfriend than yourself in the beginning but I think you are seeing now that you deserve a comfortable oasis for yourself away from the stressful demands of this world. You always do so much for others it’s good to see you doing things JUST for you. Like an eyelash extension or being pampered with makeup or a pedicure. Keep it up. You are so worth it Monica.

    Enjoy the rest of your Sunday xo Laura

    P.S.  I hope they get to the bottom of your GI issues. Keep doing what works.

    in reply to: Day 300, c,one bow to a year #45371
    finding_laura
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    I too hope you are having a great time on your well deserved vacation. Sounds like you have been tackling everything you need to. That takes guts and perseverance. And learning to take care of yourself at the same time is the important bit.

    I think of you often! I’ve been busy with work, personal paperwork and of course the never ending medical appointments. I have three in the next week. But other than that I am doing fine.

    Stay strong Monica. you are doing fantastic!
    Laura xo

    in reply to: I was here #36721
    finding_laura
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    Thanks for the positive messages. This good egg feels like she is cracking sometimes! I finally received the go ahead and am not commuting all the time. Good thing as I am dealing with more medical issues. Still not gambling. It’s not that I don’t think about it because I do. I just keep moving myself on. Once home I am in my safe zone. So more time home means more safe zone. Thinking about my GT friends. Laura

    in reply to: Day 300, c,one bow to a year #45344
    finding_laura
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    Good to catch up even just a little. I am sitting here with color in my hair. I wish I could go to a hair shop and have i done well. But I have a hard time sitting in the chairs for hours. I’m trying something new. Thinking of phasing out the coloring slowly. I think if you even think of taking the job permanently that you negotiate a higher salary, enough help, and some needed time off. Trust that good things will happen. Have a good rest of the weekend. xo Laura

    in reply to: I was here #36718
    finding_laura
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    Thank you all for your messages! I’ve been very busy with appointments, part time work and my commute. I’m also tackling more projects around my home. They take me forever without a lot of help. My cleaning lady stood me up today. Just didn’t show. Not the first time. I’m going to have to find someone new. But it can be hard to find someone trust worthy. If my company can’t hurry up with the bureaucracy that would allow me to do most of my work from home I may have to file for disability Vera. Right now I’m just hanging in there. The only good thing right now is i’m not losing my shirt every day gambling. Today I will not gamble. Stay strong, Laura xo

    in reply to: Day 300, c,one bow to a year #45322
    finding_laura
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    Hey friend, checking in on you. The last time you posted of passing up on a good job with better pay my instincts were screaming that you should be taking these jobs. What have the heads of this company done for you to be so deserving of this loyalty? Did they not put themselves in this position? You need to look after you. Which means taking a job that is not as taxing on your health and that offers more money and time for long weekends and weeks for holiday trips. You’ve put in your hard knocks in this life. You’ve been dedicated and devoted. But if we don’t receive some of that same love and care we wither from the inside out. So shine it on yourself. Keep setting those boundaries where you can. The talk of respect with your son. We can all continue to learn and change where there is a will. Amazingly well done on your 18 months gamble free. No one could have called your journey an easy one. But you have made it this far, look back down the mountainside you have climbed. Take in the vista. There is so much more yet to come. xo Laura

    in reply to: Day 300, c,one bow to a year #45281
    finding_laura
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    Hi Monica,
    I’m behind as always. My work has been very stressful. I don’t have much left. So very sorry to hear your mom’s plight. My father went through it twice in his life time. The last in his senior years. It seemed the last few years there was always something flaring or showing up. I didn’t like to see him lose some of his last chances at being vital.
    If you file the claim with the police re the package is there insurance on it that will cover the loss? It seems life little hurdles can become such big obstacles sometimes. Times like those were times I liked to gamble to forget the stress for a while. But it was always so much worse with the added stress of financial loss later. I wish you had a little more work life balance. I’m glad you are looking at a couple of trips. Would love to catch you in group one of these days. Take care of yourself. Laura xo

    in reply to: Day 300, c,one bow to a year #45279
    finding_laura
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    owe you a post Monica but I’m going to be late for work if I keep reading. Keep your chin up. I note today is your mom’s scheduled surgery unless it was cancelled in your last couple posts. Work best understand, you have given up two posh jobs now. YOU come first. They should be doing more to help you/keep you etc. Anyway, got to run, but I will finish this tonight. Luv Laura xoxo

    in reply to: I feel grateful to be alive – one day at a time #48432
    finding_laura
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    Happy New Year Kin, I know I am a month late, life has been tough for me lately, but I am plodding along the best I can. One foot in front of the other. I am not gambling, thankfully. I pray that this is a great year for you. You have made so much effort it would be good to see you reap the benefit of a relatively calm gamble free life. Take care brother Kin! luv Laura

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