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No long intro needed, I’m back, picking myself back up “One day at a time!” I have found myself throwing away money again. Trying to come back out before I’m in the type of debt that keeps me up at night, the kind that won’t let you think of anything else other than my next play/bet and how I plan to pay all my over due bills.
I will not allow myself to go back there. Where I stand now, I can still see light at the end of the tunnel.
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Hi Cruising,
You say,
“I have found myself throwing away money again…
I’m in the type of debt that keeps me up at night…
the kind that won’t let you think of anything else other than my next bet…
how I plan to pay all my bills…”You have describe everything about me.
I love your posts. Thank you for sharing. -
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Hey Cruising… Good thing you came back to post, I hope we see a post where it is a month from now, and you didn’t gamble, but to be honest I would love to see a post of no gambling for 16 February 2024
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I’ve been good… Today just spending time with the family… Taking one day at a time…
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Hi Cruising,
to answer your questions…
I did not use Gam Care so I am not familiar. I am so sorry I cannot tell you much about them.
I am more comfortable with Gambling Therapy.Sponsor was a term commonly used by people who practice the Gambler Anonymous 12 steps recovery program.
GA has many physical and zoom meeting online in many countries.
You have many choices, there are many English speaking meeting in UK, USA, Canada, Australia and many more.
I cannot offer any more suggestion because I have stop attending GA meeting and I do not have a 12 steps sponsor.There is a saying, “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.”
When I have a burning desire inside to ask questions on the 12 steps program
I used to ask Mr. Ken L and Charles in Gambling Therapy.I was looking for a sponsor and mentor who is loving, caring, more powerful in knowledge and experience.
I finally found this person in a physical gambling support group meeting who became my mentor.
I have tried practicing the 12 steps recovery program but found it difficult to practice until I found a Higher Power in Jesus Christ. -
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Hey Cruising, I am here for a liability check!! I understand you don’t have any body to hand your finances to, but instead of handing over your finances, I would love to see a daily post till atleast the end of June 2024, thereafter I will relax a bit, but would love to hear your progress and let you know, you are not alone.
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I also am getting my pay tomorrow, but I want to promise you, I will post on here that I paid all debt, and how I am going to spend the money on my family and at home, instead of making a casino rich!
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hi Curising\Gustav.
wish you all the best, if you are prepared I am sure you will pass it.
not to scare you but the riskiest paydays for me is the one that followed with a weekend or a long holyday, unfortunately like tomorrow.
if I didn’t distribute the money before i leave the office I will be very tempted to gamble. be more carful with such days.
the combination of money + free time + access to gambling site is very dangerous for us.wish you all the best
just a small tip:
after paying all your payments and keeping money for your other expenses, if you don’t have a plan or a way to protect the extra money, you can buy gold coin or gold bars there are bars from 5g and up. it will give you a time buffer because you need to sell it to get the cash compared with the cash that you can directly lose it to gambling if you slip. i know if we relapse some time nothing can stop us from ruining every thing but, i found this useful for me because in addition to the money that i save in a protected account “protected from me” i need some extra money for any emergency, keeping cash was very tempting to me, but keeping gold was much better. i failed on the first time i used this method but after that and for almost 2 years now i am having my emergency fund as gold. I had multiple relapses during the last two years but I didn’t use my gold emergency fund to gamble I used it once to cover the rest of my expenses after a relapse.
also i have a maximum limit for this emergency fund ( my monthly expenses x 2), I can’t trust myself to keep an easy excess for a bigger amount even if it is gold not cash. if you need to use this method i suggest to build it gradually to test this method and to gain trust. -
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Dark!! That is genius!! That way the money won’t be available immediately!! Thank you so much for the tips! By the time you sell the gild, the need to gamble has passed, and you proved to yourself that you can go without it.
Cruising!!!! You did it! This is wonderfully news, it gave me a smile when I read that! I want to say, I am proud of you Cruising! You truelly want to kick this decease, and you are using making use of the tools available. You are not alone, and I will be here to help you through this, the same way you guys are here for me.
One day at a time!!
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Seeing messages like this, makes my day!! Have a great day Cruising and I hope you can feel the true power you have, to make this journey work!
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Hi Cruising, I hope this finds you well, when we gamble it always only ever ends one way as we all well know, pain, hurt, suffering for everyone, I know I am a better person when I dont gamble, we all are but still we slip up, you are back on track and thats all that matters, keep working hard at staying gamble free and enjoying that life, its so much better than the alternative again as we both well know, take good care and wish you well.
Maverick
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Hi Cruising,
Thank you for the updates.
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Hey Cruising, doing a check in here. Hope all is going good and well and that you are winning this addiction
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Hey Cruising…
I’m sorry to hear, they managed to get to you… But the good news is, you are only human… We all make mistakes…
With you being this honest takes so much gits and I respect you for that, you could have easily lied, but you didn’t…
I am again reaching out, and reminding you, you are not alone in all of this, when the urge gets to you, come and make a post, let’s talk… Talk about what you are thinking and feeling, before you make that bet… Come here and read your your post even if it’s just for 2 minutes, this will help reduce the urge to gamble and give you the courage not to make that bet…
You are not alone, and I wish that you beat this thoughts, and you can be gamble free…
Have a great day, and let’s strive for 10 000 gamble free days…
One day at a time!!
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Hi Cruising,
How was your week?
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Hi Cruising,
Thank you for posting.
It is ok to not be ok at times
It is normal to feel all kinds of emotions because mental well-being is about accepting and embracing all these emotions.It is ok to whine to the rest in your thread, it may be helping another person reading as much as it is helping you.
This way you can let out your frustrations without gambling.It keeps you safe which is more important.
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What does it feel like when your heart wants to do something?
Your heart, driven by emotions, instincts, and desires pulls you in one direction.
What does it feel like when your mind wants to do something?
Your mind, guided by logic, reasoning, and analysis, urges you to go in another direction.
What do you mean when your heart want to gamble and your mind want to stop gambling?
Cognitive dissonance occurs when two conflicting thoughts are present in the mind at the same time and both thoughts lead to indecision.
For example, your “heart” might say you want to gamble but your “mind” says you cannot gamble.
There is a tug-of-war between emotions and thoughts.Who will win?
The heart or the mind?In the Wolf Parable
An elder Apache was teaching his grandchildren about life.
He said to them,” A fight is going on inside me; it is a terrible fight
and it is between two wolves.
One wolf represents fear, anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, competition, superiority, and ego.
The other stands for joy, peace, love, hope, sharing, serenity, humility, kindness, friendship, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.
This same fight is going on inside you, and inside every other person too.”
They thought about it for a minute
and then one child asked his grandfather,
“Which wolf will win?”
The old Grandpa simply replied, “The one you feed.Who are you going to feed, “your heart or your mind.”
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