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    • #30301

      Hello. Here’s a brief introduction of myself.
      I’m a 20 year old male from Singapore, in south-east Asia and I have a poker addiction. This post is what I hope to be the trigger to the end of the bullsh*t I’ve put myself and the people around me through.

      I’ve been playing poker for 4-5 years now, starting from .1/.2 games to 1/2 games. It all started from a game between friends, and escalated speedily to home games with strangers. The memory of losing $16 during the very first poker session I played is still vivid, I was horrified. Most recently, I lost a cumulative amount of around $1k these 2 weeks. I’m in debt to people close to me and it brings a sinking feeling to my gut, to think that I’ve imposed the consequences of my habit onto the ones I love. My banks are essentially empty and I can’t clear my debt anytime soon.

      What scares me the most is that I’ve forgotten the value of money. $50 is not $50, but 25% of my one buy in at a 1/1 game. There are so many things that that sum of money can buy, but not the thrill that poker gives me. It’s not so much about winning than being able to play the game without losing to me. Countless friends have been made through poker and some I have gotten close to and are amazing people, and I don’t want to lose them.

      I know I’m a losing player, but the loss wears off after each session and I go back to it once again.

      I don’t really know why I’m here either, but I hope you guys can push me in the right direction so I know where to put my next foot forward.

    • #30302


      Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums

      Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!

      Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.

      And on that note….

      I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂

      Take care

      The Gambling Therapy Team

      PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our
      privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!

    • #30303

      Welcome to this site. I spent a lot of time reading through the posts here and i believe you can find a lot of help in the stories of others. There is a good life to be had away from gambling. You can change your circumstances very quickly when you choose to live that life that is waiting for you away fromthe poker table. There are new experiences and new friends to be made as well. If you want to change your life, you are the only one that can do it. The debts won’t go away overnight, but you can bet that continuing to play is not going to make them better. I hope you are thinking of ways to say no to the next game. You can do it!

    • #30304

      Hi Magnus. I see you posted and got a little advice a couple of weeks ago now. Did you manage to find that GA meeting? Did you speak to your dad again? He could help with accountability, maybe look after your money for a while so you can’t access it for gambling.

      Those „countless friends” you have made through playing poker? If they are true friends won’t you be able to do other non gambling activities with them? I had a lot of „friends” i used to gamble with. Whilst some of them were true friends many turned out to be just gambling acquaintances.

      Use the support you have here, keep posting

    • #30305

      Thanks for the advice and encouragement. A month on and I’m still almost in the same situation as before. It’s so difficult to gather the willpower to consistently stay as far away from gambling as possible and to prevent myself from going back to it after days/weeks, but I’m trying.

    • #30306

      I still haven’t gotten around to the GA meeting yet. A month on and I’m still stuck in the same rut, chasing losses. I’m making a resolution today to stop gambling at least until I pay off all my debts, a baby step I hope I will be able to follow through.

      I’ve briefly told my dad that I have ‘money issues’ but he doesn’t know that I’ve still been gambling regularly and told me to be more responsible with what I have.

      My social life is nonexistent as of now and the only interactions I have with people are my family and the people at the poker table. It’s an obsession that all of us have in common and leeches our complete and undivided attention and time.

      I hope that I will be able to push myself to take a step in the right direction.. starting today.

    • #30307

      Its really hard to fight this addiction alone, its good you have come here for support its a great place, maybe talk on the one on one line or join in the groups here too.. gamblers anonymous is a wonderful place to be when we have this addiction.. can you exclude from the places you are playing at if thats possible for you.. there are blockers for your computer and there are exlusions you can put in place at land based casinos..

    • #30308

      NAMS conducts individual counselling, group psychoeducation,
      family therapy as well as support group programmes for
      patients and their family members.
      Counselling and psychoeducation programmes enable patients
      to increase their knowledge and understanding of addiction
      and develop effective relapse prevention plans to manage
      their addictions. Family counselling supports families in their
      caregiving role, and helps with the patients’ re-integration
      into the family.

      Our programmes include:
      Gambling Addiction Management through Education (GAME)
      & GAME-Family
      Through a series of eight psychoeducation and discussion
      groups, GAME educates patients about gambling addiction
      and recovery. Patients who complete GAME can attend a
      Recovery Support Group for ongoing support from their peers.

      GAME-Family brings together families impacted by problem gambling. Family members can gain tips and strategies on dealing with the consequences of problem gambling, and
      also receive emotional support from one other.
      Buangkok Green Medical Park
      Block 9, 10 Buangkok View
      Singapore 539747
      General Enquiries: 6389-2000
      Appointment Line: 6389-2200
      National Problem Gambling Helpline: 1800-6-668-668

    • #30309

      Blessed Grace Social Service
      (hereafter known as “BGSS”) is a non-profit organization officially registered in March 2014 to benefit the community by relieving human need , particularly in the recovery of people in addictions (gambling, drugs and others), the poor, the elderly and youths at risk
      8428 6377 (Gamblers Recovery Centre)
      18 Arumugam Road, #05-01, Antioch@Macpherson, Singapore 409962!about2/c21ew

    • #30310

      WE CARE Community Services is an addiction recovery centre funded by charity. We provide support and treatment programmes for all forms of addiction, including drugs, alcohol, gambling, sex, and various other compulsive behaviours. Our services are open to all persons who are in need of help to cope with an addictive disorder. We also serve to assist family members who need guidance and support on how to manage an addict in their families.
      WE CARE provides counseling to those suffering from addictions, as well as family and loved ones, whose lives are affected by someone struggling with the disease.
      All our counsellors are trained to help individuals with all addictions, co-dependency and related family issues.
      Psycho-educational workshops devoted to help recovery persons to understand and cope with addiction as a disease. It equip recovering persons to develop better coping, interpersonal and life skills
      Our drop-in centre provides a safe and supportive place for recovering persons. Apart from social activities for recovering persons and their families, the centre provides various training and psycho-educational workshops that encourage sustained recovery.
      WE CARE hosts various RSGs on a weekly/ daily basis and, all RSGs are self-help groups, based on the Twelve-step principles on recovery.
      WE CARE Community Services Ltd
      Kembangan-Chai Chee Community Hub
      11 Jalan Ubi, Block 5, #01-41
      Singapore 409074
      Tel 6547 5459
      Gambling Anonymous Mon 7.00 pm – 8.00 pm

    • #30311

      Founded in 2004, ONE HOPE CENTRE is a faith-based non-profit voluntary welfare organisation setup to help members of the public (regardless of race and religion) who are affected by problem gambling and related issues, through counselling, support groups, education and intervention with an aim to restore life to normalcy.
      The consequences from compulsive gambling that often lead to being heavily indebted, create a host of other problems that include anxiety, fear, family crisis and social ills. One Hope Centre hopes to alleviate these consequences by providing hope amidst hopelessness.
      Over the years, OHC has handled hundreds of cases related to compulsive gambling and reckless borrowing. These have provided us with a good understanding of how best to reach out to the affected. Our accumulated experience from conducting support groups, individual and family counselling, as well as recovery programs enables us to take a holistic approach to the recovery of our clients.
      8 New Industrial Road, #04-04B
      LHK 3 Building
      Singapore 536200
      Tel: 6547 1011 (4 lines)

    • #30312

      What is Habit?

      Habit formation is the process by which behaviour, through regular repetition, becomes automatic or habitual
      1. A recurrent, often unconscious pattern of behaviour that is acquired through frequent repetition.
      2. An established disposition of the mind or character.
      A disposition is a habit, a preparation, a state of readiness, or a tendency to act in a specified way.

      What is addiction?

      Addiction is defined as not having control over doing, taking or using something, to the point where it could be harmful to you. An addiction is an unhealthy relationship with drugs, or alcohol, in which you use more than you would like to use, and you continue to use despite negative consequences.

    • #30313

      Autobiography in Five Short Chapters

      Chapter 1
      I walk down the street.
      There is a deep hole in the sidewalk
      I fall in.
      I am lost … I am helpless.
      It isn’t my fault.
      It takes me forever to find a way out.

      Chapter 2
      I walk down the same street.
      There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
      I pretend I don’t see it.
      I fall in again.
      I can’t believe I am in the same place
      but, it isn’t my fault.
      It still takes a long time to get out.

      Chapter 3
      I walk down the same street.
      There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
      I see it is there.
      I still fall in … it’s a habit.
      my eyes are open
      I know where I am.
      It is my fault.
      I get out immediately.

      Chapter 4
      I walk down the same street.
      There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
      I walk around it.

      Chapter 5
      I walk down another street.

      Copyright (c) 1993, by Portia Nelson from the book There’s A Hole in My Sidewalk.

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