[lonely44]

I’ve been married to my husband for almost 3 years. Last year we went to Vegas for our anniversary. We hit big — and the both of us put most of it back. When we came home he just wouldn’t stop — going every weekend, all weekend, by himself with no sleep. He would take all of our money including my own money from my second job. He would always call and apologize when he would blow the mortgage check — maxed out all credit cards and lost every dime we owned. He wa in charge of bills, and when I finally saw none of the bills were opened I asked him why — he said because we can’t pay them so what’s the point. I’ve gotten upset, told him to stop, never yelled, but instead was always there for him with a shoulder to cry on and I know that wa wrong. His whole life now is about gambling — he doesn’t even apologize anymore. If he’s not at work or at the casino, he’s playing poker online (fake money) or playing lotto or gambling in local bars. I work so hard for my money and can’t do anything for myself. Then he always tells at me and said I’m a horrible wife because I don’t support «what he loves to do». He calls this «a hobby» but I know it’s much more. I love him to death but I just feel like a used person, and he only really talks to me, and nicely at that, when he wants something or need something done. I don’t want to leave him, but I also don’t want to live my life the way my mom did with my dad. I’ve seen what gambling can do to people and their families first hand, and I’ve lived through it for so long already. He keeps saying he doesn’t have a problem, and still wants to go to the casino all of the time. When I tell him it’s not a good idea and he shouldn’t go, he gets mad at me for «holding him back» and he «would be better off alone». I am so depressed over this and don’t even know what to do anymore. 🙁

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