Dear (((Cat)))! Thank you for your kind supportive post on my thread. I am very aware that in the past I have enabled clients, by doing things for them that they could and should have done for themselves. I am really trying not to enable people anymore, and to stop being a people pleaser. It’s good that I do have lots of empathy for others, but I recognize that me feeling awful for them, or worrying about them, isn’t going to change their situation. Only they can do that! Like only I can work my recovery! I myself have become so much more healthy emotionally since getting into recovery. I still have a long way to go but I can only do it as I become more aware of my patterns of behaviors and thoughts. I notice that I can come across as negative though I don’t mean to. The instructor asked me why I was taking the course. She asked if it was for fun or for work. My foot in the mouth response was "why would anyone take this course for fun?" I immediately regretted saying that as she obviously thinks the course is important or she wouldn’t be teaching it. I’m trying to be a healthier person and to have healthier people in my life but that is going to take time. As Oprah has said, "when you know better you do better!" Carole
