Hi Craigmac.
So you want your life back? Great. Now what are you prepared to do to get it? How about accountability and your wife holding the money in an account you don’t have access to? A couple of posts back I rad your “account ius currentlky closed”? How about asking them to exclude you? Then it can’t be re-opened. How about a blocker for your devices that your wife sets any passwords for? If u you can get around blockers then get a “brick” for a phonew with limited internetr access.
You can stop gambling, but words, promises, even intentions don’t usually work. Keep posting and let us know what positive actions you are taking. Because the actions that will help you stop gambling are the same actions that can help rebuild trust etc with your family.