They call Alzimers the “long goodbye”. It is a sad disease no doubt about that. I think when faced with a serious illiness every family has a different way of dealing with it. Some are totally involved, some are in total denial, and some try to ignore it so maybe it will go away. I remember when my brother first got sick, before we knew he had cancer. My sister (who is a loving and caring person) made the statement that she was glad my brother had relocated near my mom because so she didn’t have to deal with it. I looked at her and said I sure didn’t feel that way-I wished he was closer so I could be of more help. She said “well thanks alot-now I feel like a total *ss!”
I know she regrets that statement and of course hind sight is 20/20. This kind of stuff is a family disease. No one will ever be the same. It will bring out the worst and the best of everyone involved. Be kind to yourself Kathryn. You feel how you feel and there is no shame in that.
bettie
